As a holiday present to my daughter and son-in-law I am watching Jeffrey, my grandson, and Charlie a 100 pound Lab for a week.
Yesterday morning started out very calmly and got ready to leave for school. One of the things we do before leaving for school is walk Charlie. Let me correct myself, Charlie walks us.
I was thinking before writing on my blog today, “Holidays can be a very painful time.” Having expectations the holidays will be fun, relaxing and receive the love and support we crave from others.
Hello, guess again. What reality usually dictates is that we are busy shopping, running around to beat the clock and annoyed with people in general.
Truer words have not been spoken, staying positive is not the easiest thing to do. The feelings of fear and sadness overwhelm us in a flash.
What are we to do?
My old stand-by is to let them come and know the feelings are temporary moments. You will make it through and the feelings will fade.
Tomorrow in the United States we will be celebrating Thanksgiving. It is a day for family, friends, lots and lots of food and a time to be grateful.
I am sure you are thinking, “Get real Helen, what do I have to be grateful for I am unemployed and will probably never find a job again.”
Your own FEARS play such a big part in your life especially while traveling on the familiar unemployed path.
I once heard fear is “False evidence appearing real.” We are experts at telling ourselves we will never find another job, my family hates me because I am unemployed, I am a failure, etc… In reality none of these fears are true.
YEAH!!! We are in control and do not have to depend solely on anyone else while journeying along this unemployed path.
My interpretation of R. Buckmender’s quote is that we have the ability to make our own choices instead of waiting for someone else to tell us what to do.
Isn’t it ironic we spend most of our lives trying to please other people and never thinking about what would make us happy?
Then when we lose our job we blame ourselves and never take into consideration it could be a blessing in disguise. How many of us hated our job and always thought, “Only if I could find another job that I really loved?”
Sunday is a day to be gentle with yourself. The other 6 days of the week are for worrying, constantly taking risks and pushing yourself harder each day.
Does this situation sound familiar, when you lost your job everyone was your friend for awhile and as time went on they slowly disappeared? Your true friends stayed along for the ride.
Alexander Graham Bell’s quote has been around a long time and very familiar to us all. On the unemployment journey we have a tendency to focus on the closed doors instead of the doors that are opening for us.
Today is a new day and let’s practice being a winner while on the unemployed journey.
Remember…you are a winner just the way you are with all your knocks and bruises.
Stand-up and put you hand over your closed eyes. What do you see? Nothing but darkness!
This is the way we live our lives. Focusing on the things we feel are not working out. Trying desperately to find a job.
Every once and awhile we need to just have fun. Everyday is filled with looking for a job or just sitting around and worrying. You deserve time off to forget for a short time and have some fun.
While on our unemployed journey, Jason Rogerson’s quote is worth repeating to ourselves constantly.
I know right now we are only focusing on what is not happening instead of the fact this is just a small portion of our lives. A day, month or year is just a blip in our lives.
I hear a lot of screaming in the background and everyone is shouting, “There has to be a better way!!” All of us on the unemployed journey are taking all the steps to find a new job and things are very slow.
What is a person to do? You feel frustrated, tired of trying new and old suggestions and not making any headway.
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