Upgrade Your Self-Concept

“We have a mental block inside us
that stops us from earning more
than we think we are worth.
If we want to earn more in reality,
we have to upgrade our self-concept.”

~ Brian Tracy

After reading Brian Tracy’s quote what were you thinking?  Do the following thoughts sound familiar?

• Is this the reason I am not making money?
• How do I change my thinking?
• I knew all along it was my thinking that was stopping me.

The thoughts can go on and on.

Okay, let’s take a step back and see what is really happening here.  Most of us are always looking for a solution to a problem.  Wouldn’t it be easy to change our thinking and our problems would disappear?

What I am learning is that sometimes I am my own worst enemy.  My thoughts start telling me all crazy ideas.  When this happens I take a deep breath, picture a STOP sign and tell myself “I am worthy of being paid for my services because I am a great coach.”

Brian Tracy’s quote sounds so simple and at the same time upgrading our self-concept can be a very difficult task.  How do you go about it?

Helen’s mind is at work…  Below is a simple plan you can follow:

• Go into a room with a mirror and close the door.
• Take a deep breath and look into the mirror.
• Say the following words out loud:
  • “I am a special person.”
  • “I am providing a service.”
• Repeat these two sentences three times.  The first time with your eyes closed, second time looking at your nose and the last time look into your eyes.  As you continue this exercise it will get easier.
• Repeat this exercise for a week and then only look in your eyes while saying the two sentences out loud.  

After a month of reassuring yourself that you are a special person and providing a service, your attitude will change.

While practicing this exercise please stay in touch with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community.  We are in this together and by supporting each other things will change. 

Keep in touch!

Helen

Tough Love for Coaches: Profit or Perish

You will not want to miss this opportunity to learn from Val Williams. Her message is invaluable if you want a profitable coaching business.

Val is going to share the single most common mistake coaches make that keep them from owning and operating a business that is producing positive cash flow.

Our calendar of events is expanding to bring you more expert advice from the leaders in the coaching industry. It’s free to listen into these calls.

RSVP to helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net to make sure you reserve your spot.

On Wednesday March 30th at 1:00 pm EST and 10:00 am Pacific you will meet Val Williams.

“Tough Love for Coaches: Profit or Perish”

As Coaches, we all have great dreams of helping people and making the world a better place. This is a wonderful intention. However, unless a Coach can build a profitable coaching business that supports a great lifestyle, the great dream probably won’t happen. My message is the tough love for coaches. If we do not focus on coaching as a business, and build the personal business skills and presence to make money, we won’t be in the game. Join me for a conversation about what it takes to create revenue while doing outstanding high quality coaching at the same time. Profit is not a dirty word. Profit is what allows us to be selective and choose the clients that match our talents the best. Then we can make that unique difference we want to make for people.

RSVP to helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net to make sure you reserve your spot.

Val Williams, MCC

Val Williams, MCC, is an Executive Coach and expert in senior executive leadership development.

Specializing in C-Level Executive Coaching, and a former health care operations executive herself, Val has coached hundreds of senior executive leaders and their teams in companies around the globe since 1994. Val coaches executives on a variety of leadership skills including strategic planning, performance management and team development. Val focuses senior leaders on the power of their Influence; and the specific type of executive presence needed to have real impact on both people and results. Visit: http://www.valwilliams.com/

RSVP to helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net to make sure you reserve your spot.

Do Something Extraordinary!

Leverage your momentum and join the Mastermind Circle!

Love Yourself Coaching is offering you a chance to stay focused and act on the information that was shared in our series.

After each leader’s talk, we are immediately opening up a mastermind circle to boost you into action using the tips and techniques shared by our successful mentors and experts.

Put MIND and MONEY into your business!

Build a support system around yourself
that will help you meet your next short term goals

Join the first ever, Love Yourself Coaching Mastermind Circle!

This new program is my way of helping coaches take a ‘no-more-excuses’ approach to growing their business and becoming prosperous.

The Love Yourself Mastermind Circle is the solution to keeping us all focused and playing a bigger game.

Together we can make things happen!

But here is the thing, I am only opening the circle to eight (8), quick-acting individuals. We will be meeting together for two weeks.

Who should join the Mastermind Circle?

• If you want to practice visibility, enrollment and fulfillment
• If you want to ‘play with others’ who want to get results
• If you need support right now to face your challenges
• If you are feeling alone while building your business

Then you want to become a member of our Love Yourself Mastermind Circle.

Invest in yourself and your business.

Join The Mastermind Circle by Monday April 4th for $125.00.

This includes three 60 minute group mastermind sessions.

Group facilitated by Helen Burton, Owner of Love Yourself Coaching.

After this date the price will be going up. Act fast!

Visit Helen’s website to Reserve Your Spot Now!

Are you playing the Game?

The Coaches’ Coaching Circle has added a new educational series. We have invited the most dynamic, successful leaders in our industry to speak with coaches each month. This opportunity gives coaches an opportunity to learn first-hand what action steps are needed to build profitable coaching businesses.

The first presenter was Dave Buck, Master Certified Coach and CEO of CoachVille.

My take-away from Dave’s presentation. He spoke about how we grew up in the Industrial Age and worked for compensation by completing tasks. No wonder we are unhappy and looking for something else. Things are changing we are coming into the Inspiration Age (Dave’s term). Where we will play and find joy again.

When playing we will be compensated for giving value, have fun, receive results and wealth.

The object of the Game is to have an objective/purpose and daily focus on Visibility, Enrollment and Fulfillment. Also, treat challenges as a good thing and find solutions.

My Daily Plan 

• Visibility: Write an article, communicate through Social Media and attend scheduled networking events and teleclasses.
• Enrollment: Promote the Coaches’ Coaching Circle, Coaches’ Mentoring Circle and Morning Action Call.
• Fulfillment: Reach out to coaches and brainstorm ideas.

Your Turn

What daily steps are you going to initiate while playing the Game? I can’t wait to hear from you and let’s support each other.

For those of you on the call please let me know your thoughts and if I missed anything. My email address is helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net.

Looking forward to hearing from you.

Creating an Enticing Workshop

Hitch your Wagon to a star.
~Ralph Waldo Emerson

One morning as you are drinking your coffee, a powerful idea pops into your head: “Create a workshop for stay-at-home moms.”  The workshop will provide friendship, support and a community project they can all work on together. 

With your energy flowing, you sit down at your computer and create this workshop.  Within hours the first draft is complete.  WOW that feels good!

The next step is to create an enticing offer for your target market of Stay-At-Home Moms.

Working with Maribeth Pelly, we always use the following rules for creating an offer that sells.

1. Make it very clear what outcome the participants will receive.  Everyone wants to feel their investment will create an obvious result.  Example:  By attending the workshop they will make friends, and work together giving back to the community.
2. Solutions for their pain and something that gives them a good feeling.  People want a simple solution to what they think will make their life better.  In the case of your target market, most of them would like to communicate with other moms and have company during the day.
3. Use testimonials relating to your target market. Most people rely on the experience of others.  Example:  If the testimonial states a person met new friends while working on community projects, laughed a lot and had a feeling of satisfaction giving back to the community; it will do wonders.  Do you notice that you buy something if a testimonial states they received the outcomes you deeply want? 
4. People want a good deal and feel they are not overpaying. If you create a list of results they will receive that is worth more than the money they are spending; the program will sell itself. 

   Example:
   - Interacting with other women who are struggling with the same issues
   - Giving back to the community
   - Opening the door to your creativity and leadership
   - Your children will meet new playmates
   - Etc.

5. Focus on your target market.  Always make your offer available to people who are seeking the results you are offering.  You would not offer your workshop to men who are looking to play baseball.  I know this is a farfetched example but it makes a point. 
6. Encourage a sense of belonging in your offer.  Everyone wants to feel they are part of a group and not feel alone.  Invite them to join this community because of who they are and what a great asset they will be to the group.  Everyone wants to hear they are wanted.

Now It Is Your Turn!

• Make yourself a cup of coffee
• Brainstorm different ideas for a workshop or program
• Draft a flyer for the program and include the 6 Steps listed above

Share your challenges and aha! moments with the Love Yourself-It Matters! Community.  Working together we will create prosperous businesses. 

Helen

Love is the Answer

Love is the Answer

“Love is, above all, the gift of oneself.”

~ Jean Anouilh

Today is Valentine’s Day and everyone is thinking about whom they love and who loves them.  Are you forgetting the most important person, “YOU?”

Many years ago, I received an email stating the benefits of acknowledging yourself on Valentine’s Day.  At first thinking how selfish, it made me think of how we always forget ourselves.  Everyone comes first!

One night last week I was out with a friend and we decided after dinner to walk around the mall.  It was very crowded and most people were carrying shopping bags.  We were saying, how commercial Valentine’s Day had become and people were probably buying gifts for their loved ones.  He then made a comment, “Why don’t they buy something for themselves?”  We then decided to buy something for ourselves and each other.  It was fun.
What are you going to do special for yourself today? 

I am going to write myself a love letter!

Dear Helen,

I want to thank you for your kindness and understanding of all the times your negative thoughts had us spinning.  You always acknowledged the thought and turned it into a positive way of thinking.

Your love of life, warmth, smile and personality always makes people feel comfortable and special.  What a special gift you are giving to your family, friends and business partners. 

Love Yourself Coaching has been a vehicle for you to support coaches in building prosperous businesses while loving themselves.  Working together with your clients you have seen them take giant steps and find happiness within themselves.

I love you and enjoy your special day!

Helen

Now it is your time to take out that piece of paper and write yourself a love letter thanking “YOU” for who you are and the wonderful gifts you give to others.  The letter can be for your eyes only.  Be honest and go for it.  

I want to thank you all for being part of the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community.  You certainly have made a difference in my life.

Love,

Helen 

Letting the world know about “You”

Letting the world know about “You” can be very frightening

“Get all the education you can,
but then, by God, do something.
Don’t just stand there;
make it happen.”
~ Lee Iococca

Reading Lee Iococca’s quote reminded me of when I first graduated from iPEC Coaching School and kept signing up for more trainings.  I kept thinking I was not ready to go out there and coach.  What if I did not ask the right questions, gave too much advice?  The list goes on and on. 

One day during a coaching session, my coach said in a very strong voice, “It is enough with the different trainings, just go out there and coach.”  I became very defensive and explained why I needed more trainings.  She did not want to continue the conversation and asked, “What were my next steps for marketing my coaching practice?”  It was the greatest gift anyone ever gave me. 

Once I started coaching clients my confidence grew and eventually I knew in my heart that I was a great coach.  Taking that first step and letting the world know about “You” can be very frightening.

Let’s take a deep breath and take that leap!  We are all in this together.

Some simple small steps you can take to overcome your FEAR. By the way, fear is False Evidence Appearing Real. 

• Meditate for a few moments and think about one step you have been putting off over and over again.  Example: Presenting a Workshop.
• Sit there and let all your fears surface.
• Think about the fear that constantly pops up all the time.  Example:  I am afraid no one will sign-up for the workshop.
• Take a deep breath and take in sunshine.
• Let your breath out and let all the fears go.
• When you feel comfortable open your eyes.
• Write in your journal about your constant fear and solutions to the dilemma.  Example:  No one will sign-up for the workshop.  One of the solutions that surfaced was to have the workshop in my home and invite friends and family.

This solution is not a cop-out!  It could be a way of practicing and getting feedback so your next workshop will be easier.   

• Create plans, send invitations and enjoy the process.

Let the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community know about your project and how we can support you.  We are all in this together.

Change, Renew and Rejuvenate

Rejuvenate Yourself

 “We must always change,
renew, rejuvenate ourselves;
otherwise we harden.” 

Johann Von Goethe
(German poet and writer) 

Let’s take this quote apart and see how we can easily implement it.

The first step is to always allow things to change.  We sometimes resist change and keep doing the same thing over and over wishing for a different result.  It is like going to a bakery and looking for something to eat that does not have two calories.  We continue doing the same thing until one day we realize nothing is going to change unless we take a different course of action.

Changing your course of action

• Choose one action step you are currently taking that is not creating the results you desire. Example: Sending emails to prospect clients instead of attending networking events. 
• Evaluate the action and see what small step you can take to change the outcome.  Example:  Instead of sending emails to prospect clients, make a phone call and arrange to meet for coffee or lunch. Building relationships is the key for attracting clients.
• Implement this new action for a month and see what results are occurring. 
• Make necessary changes.

The second step is to renew your passion. Sometimes we feel that we are continually climbing a mountain and our passion starts to diminish.  We are only human and need a ray of sunshine to ignite our fire. 

Ignite your fire

• Write a letter to a loved one telling them how your passion is weakening.  You don’t have to share the letter with anyone. 
• Journal about how you are feeling.
• Call a friend or your coach and schedule time to brainstorm ideas.
• Journal often about the different ideas and opportunities that are developing.
• Keep exploring and enjoy the journey.

Rejuvenate Yourself

Do you take time for yourself?  If you don’t, why not?  Not enough time, you forget or feel it is not important.  YOU ARE IMPORTANT!

I love the expression “In order not to feel resentful of others, take time for yourself first.” It has been proven over and over again when we schedule time for ourselves and then give to others, it is a special gift.     

What are you going to do nice for yourself today?  I am going to pick-up my grandson today from school, go to the library and then out for dinner before attending his Science Fair.  

Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community what changes you are going to make, ignite your fire again and rejuvenate yourself. 

Helen

May you live all the days of your life.

Learn how to Play BIG this year. Join us for a free virtual presentation, 2/23, 1pm EST.

Dave Buck has a simple, clear message that will help you play big this year… in your life and work.  How do I know this?  I heard Dave speak at a recent gathering and I implemented what he suggested as soon as I got home.  I can honestly say, what he suggests WORKS!  And it really works well.  DAILY I take clear action steps to help grow my business.

If you are at all familiar with Dave Buck, he is entertaining and we all could use a bit of laughter in our lives!

So please join us Wednesday, February 23^rd at 1pm EST.

RSVP today to reserve your spot and begin growing and loving your business again!  Just email Helen at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net.

Play BIG In The World: Dave Buck to speak February 2011

The first presenter for the Coaches’ Coaching Circle and Our Coaching Friends Educational Series is Dave Buck.

Come prepared to learn a new technique, become motivated and move forward with your business!

Details for Call

Date: Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Time: 1:00pm EST and 10:00am Pacific
RSVP: Email Helen at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net to reserve your place.

Please let me know if you are interested by February 16, 2011 so we can make sure there is enough room on the bridgeline for everyone. I can be reached at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net or 609.448.882. I am looking forward to hearing from you.

Dave Buck BIO

Dave Buck is a Master Certified Coach and the CEO of CoachVille, the largest social network for business and life coaches in the world. Dave’s vision is that everyone, everywhere with the courage to play BIG in the world, has a great coach!

As a life coach he has coached over 1,000 individuals one-on-one and in small groups. He has also trained several thousand coaches as the lead trainer for CoachVille’s Center for Coaching Mastery.

Dave worked side-by-side with Thomas Leonard - the founder of the life coaching movement – to create CoachVille in 2000 and became the CEO shortly after Thomas passed away in February 2003

Dave is a Founding Member of the Transformational Leadership Council; a group founded by Jack Canfield (author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series) and includes several leaders of the personal development movement including Wayne Dyer, John Gray and Rhonda Byrne. Many members of the council are part of the hit movie and book The Secret.

Play BIG in the World

Are you ready to play BIG in the world?

Playing BIG in the world means that you are fully expressing your talents and gifts in a way that adds maximum value to the lives of others while bringing joy and true wealth to your life at the same time! It means you wake up every day ready to play with purpose to create possibility vs. going to work on tasks and problems.

To play BIG you have to be willing and able to step up and stand out! You have to be willing to take a risk and be seen and known for who you really are and then boldly share your value with colleagues and customers. You must be clear about your value to others and live true to your purpose in the world. It is challenging, engaging and thrilling at the same time.

The Spirit of Play is the key!

One key to playing BIG in your business or career is to energize your game with the spirit of play! With the spirit of play you tap into a major human energy source that releases your creativity, resourcefulness, resilience and desire to have fun doing what you do. When you do this on a daily basis, you attract opportunities because the people around you are drawn to the energy.

Based on our fundamental understanding that all humans are born with the ability AND desire to play we developed a fundamental theory that ANY endeavor in life can be played as a winnable game. We call our method Play- Two-Win tm because as a coach you only win when your player wins and as a player you only win when your whole team wins. This becomes another point of attraction because people will love playing on your team because they know that you are playing for them to win also.

Traditional methods for coaching and personal growth are often not effective because they are focused on working on tasks and problems. We know that humans learn, grow and produce results better when they are playing and enjoying what they do. So if you want to play BIG in the world AND coach people who desire to play big in the world, you MUST learn this method.

This powerful playshop is designed for coaches AND anyone ready to play BIG in the world.

Details for Call

Date: Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Time: 1:00pm EST and 10:00am Pacific
RSVP: Email Helen at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net to reserve your place.

Please let me know if you are interested by February 16, 2011 so we can make sure there is enough room on the bridgeline for everyone. I can be reached at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net or 609.448.882. I am looking forward to hearing from you.

Create The Opportunity to Own a Successful Coaching Business!

Join the Coaches’ Coaching Circle This Year

What does the Circle mean for you?

When you join the Coaches Coaching Circle, You will become a part of a virtual coaching environment where you will:

· Immediately begin working with a client.
· Strengthen and explore personal issues with your coach to create a lifestyle that you seek.
· Learn what systems you need to have in place to build a prosperous business
· Have access and learn from some of the top experts in our coaching industry.

If last year you were struggling because you are not making an acceptable income, you were tired of coaching less-than-ideal clients, and you questioned your decision to becoming a coach, then it’s time to create positive changes in 2011.

As a Coaches’ Coaching Circle Member, you will:

· Accumulate All Your ICF Certification Hours

· Learn From The BEST Coaches In Our Industry

· And Get Paid!

Make the Coaches’ Coaching Circle Part of your 2011 Plan.

New! We have added a new educational module to the CCC Membership. We have invited some of the most dynamic, successful leaders in our industry to speak with our members each month. This opportunity gives members a chance to learn first-hand how to take action and which steps are needed to begin building a profitable coaching business in 2011.

Dave Buck will be kicking off our series in February (See Dave’s Bio and Talk Summary). You won’t want to miss Dave talk about playing a bigger game. His message is valuable, entertaining and easy to implement for coaches of all level of experience and skill.

Join the Circle today. It’s easy and it’s affordable. It will be the best investment you made in 2011. Send an email to Helen, helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net.

Circle Investment: $250.00/Month. Registered by Jan. 20th to begin Feb. 1st.

Your Monthly Coaching Income $150.00

Monthly Out of Pocket Cost: $100.00

Purchase Three Months at $200/month and save.

Dave Buck Kicks Off The Coaches’ Coaching Circle

Educational Series for 2011!

Come prepared to learn a new technique, become motivated and move forward with your business!

“Play BIG in the World”
Are you ready to play BIG in the world?

Presented by Dave Buck

Traditional methods for coaching and personal growth are often not effective because they are focused on working on tasks and problems. We know that humans learn, grow and produce results better when they are playing and enjoying what they do. So if you want to play BIG in the world AND coach people who desire to play big in the world, you MUST learn this method. This powerful playshop is designed for coaches AND anyone ready to play BIG in the world.

Dave Buck BIO

Dave Buck is a Master Certified Coach and the CEO of CoachVille, the largest social network for business and life coaches in the world. Dave’s vision is that everyone, everywhere with the courage to play BIG in the world, has a great coach!

As a life coach he has coached over 1,000 individuals one-on-one and in small groups. He has also trained several thousand coaches as the lead trainer for CoachVille’s Center for Coaching Mastery.

Dave worked side-by-side with Thomas Leonard - the founder of the life coaching movement – to create CoachVille in 2000 and became the CEO shortly after Thomas passed away in February 2003

Dave is a Founding Member of the Transformational Leadership Council; a group founded by Jack Canfield (author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series) and includes several leaders of the personal development movement including Wayne Dyer, John Gray and Rhonda Byrne. Many members of the council are part of the hit movie and book The Secret.

“Change your thoughts and change your world.”

“Change your thoughts and change your world.”

Norman Vincent Peale

Do you wake up every morning and think today is going to be a good day? That is the true meaning of positive thinking.

Each morning as I open my eyes I hear Alice, my cat, meowing in a piercing sound. She wants to eat!

Getting out of bed quickly so she stops, my thoughts turn to my day. I have programed myself to think about what is happening and 3 things I want to accomplish. This exercise works for me and I feel motivated instantly.

You may ask me, “How can I start changing my thoughts in the morning?” Being honest, it does take time. Below are a few steps you can take to start the process:

· After opening your eyes in the morning give yourself a big hug

· Picture yourself sitting in a warm place feeling peaceful

· Say out loud or to yourself 3 things you are grateful for

· Think about your day and one nice thing you are going to do for yourself

Continue this exercise every morning for a week and see what happens.

Please let me know if you are feeling better in the morning and motivated to start your day. As Norman Vincent Peale says, “Change your thoughts and change your world.”

I am looking forward to hearing from you.

“Be Here Now”

“Be Here Now”

Ram Dass

This morning I was watching a short video about enjoying the moment. It told a story about a man who was out for the day and driving towards the beach area. He suddenly realized his cell phone was not working. The man started obsessing about not being able to receive calls and what if someone needed him. He missed the beautiful scenery along the road. Finally, he decided to turn around and go back home. When he got back home and was able to check his phone no one had called. How sad!!

How many times do we keep thinking about something and the day disappears. I read some place once that over 90% of the things we worry about don’t happen.

Let’s make today a new way of being and stop ourselves when we start to obsess about something.

Some simple steps you can take when that annoying thought appears.

· Take a deep breath and close your eyes for a second.

· Say to yourself, “Be Here Now.”

· Think about what you are doing at that moment.

Your annoying thought will disappear and suddenly you will be living in the moment. Don’t be surprised if you have to practice this exercise at least 50 times a day. Eventually, you will start to only live in the moment.

Remember you are not alone I am right next to you doing the same thing.

Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community your progress.

Circumstances Can Change In Seconds

This last Sunday there was a football game: the New York Giants vs. Philadelphia Eagles. The Eagles defeated the Giants, 38-31, after being down 24-3 at halftime. The Eagles came back in the second half and DeSean Jackson, Eagles wide receiver, scored the winning touchdown within the final seconds of the game.

Everyone was in shock. No one expected the Eagles to win the game.

What can we learn from this situation? Keep going. You never know what can change within seconds.

I would like to tell you a little story. For the past 8 years I’ve been coaching many clients and I was continuously searching for my niche. Even though most of my clients were coaches, I would not acknowledge the fact I was a Coaches’ Coach. Like the Eagles, I kept playing my game and went from niche to niche. I was a Recovery Coach, a Relationship Coach, a Retirement Coach and a Get Off the Diet Merry-Go-Round Coach.

Finally, after soul searching and working with my own coach, I realized my niche had found me. I am a Coaches’ Coach. My mission is “To support coaches to build prosperous businesses while loving themselves.”

Sometimes we feel the climb is uphill and other times we are surprised by the responses we receive.

Keep stepping out of your comfort zone, taking action steps, get a coach and you’ll see that within seconds things can change.

Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community what circumstances have changed, within seconds, while following your path.