Posts Tagged ‘Attitudes’
“If you see yourself as prosperous, you will be.
If you see yourself as continually hard up,
that is exactly what you will be.”
Robert Collier
I read quotes about thinking positively all the time. The message shouted loud and clear is to think that way so you will attract desired results. Okay, give me a break!
Sometimes things just happen, your mind takes over and we jump into the negativity pot. I hate to say it, but sometimes a negative thought feels good. You don’t have to act happy. Feel grateful and it allows your negative feelings to emerge. We sometimes need a break!!
Where has it been proven that if you think negatively you will only receive undesirable results? If you have any evidence of this happening please let me know.
Okay it is time for me to get off my soap box.
Thinking and feeling positive has its benefits.
- My world brightens
- I have more energy
- Opportunities start to materialize
- People want to be with me
- I like myself better
I can spend a whole day writing down all the benefits of thinking positively. Therefore, it is true that when you visualize yourself as thriving, you will be.
Please let me know what your thoughts are regarding thinking negatively or positively. I am looking forward to hearing from you.
“You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself any direction you choose.
You’re on your own, and you know what you know.
And you are the one who’ll decide where you’ll go.”
Dr. Seuss
What direction are you steering yourself? We are the action force behind our success and journey.
It is so easy to say, “I am working so hard and my business is not where I want it to be.” This certainly can be your reality. On the other hand, things are happening which you could have not imagined say a few months ago.
My dream was to have a team of professionals working with me who were dedicated to the success of Love Yourself Coaching. Gradually, I connected with different professionals whose dedication and skills are increasing my business productivity. My motto is, “Be open to possibilities.”
Now it is your turn!
What is your dream? As Dr. Seuss says, “You can steer yourself any direction you choose. And you are the one who’ll decide where you’ll go.”
Some simple steps you can follow to get started:
- Write about your dream. Make it real and that it is already happening. Example: My business is growing and as of today I have 10 clients.
- How are you feeling? Example: Successful, happy and fulfilled.
- Everyday read or write about your dream. It will keep you focused and open to possibilities.
Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community. Together we can support each other.
Helen
Last month I celebrated my birthday. As the day was approaching this sickening feeling in the pit of my stomach got stronger. I started thinking what did I accomplish this past year? Of course my inner dialogue shouted, “NOTHING!!”
After struggling with this negative thought process for a few days, I decide to call a friend. To my good fortune she picked up the phone. After relaying my story, she started to laugh and asked who I was talking about. The Helen she knew was a beautiful giving person and successful business owner.
As we continued speaking, I started coming out of my funk, admitted the great things I accomplished and the amazing life changes my clients achieved.
Sometimes all we need is a good friend who listens and is supportive. Eventually we will put our Gremlins to sleep and bask in our greatness.
When you are having one of those days feeling your business will never flourish. Pick up the phone and call a caring friend or leave a comment on the Love Yourself – It Matters! Blog.
My commitment is that I will get back to you and support you in finding your true greatness.
Enjoy your greatness!
Helen
P.S. I had a beautiful birthday.
Everyone Has Many Special Gifts
Are you thinking I wish my life was easier, can’t lose weight or want a new job? Welcome to the human race. Most of us go through our day doing the things we have to do and wishing for our lives to be better. We never take the time to acknowledge the special gifts we already have in our lives.
What comes to mind is how Dorothy’s friends in the Wizard of Oz spent most of their time looking for the Wizard to give them what they wanted. The Lion was looking for courage, Tin Man for a heart and Scarecrow for brains. After meeting the Wizard and seeing what a fraud he was each one realized they already had the gift they were looking for.
We are no different than Dorothy’s friends. Most of the time we are looking for something we already have. Let me give you an example: Jane just moved into a new neighborhood, was feeling very lonely and felt she had no friends. What Jane did not realize was that she already knew many people. During Jane’s coaching session she decided to play a game that night at her office party and count the number of people she spoke to. Jane was amazed when she realized she knew and spoke to over 10 people that night. Her next plan was to invite some of her peer co-workers to coffee after work.
If Jane did not play that game she would be still looking to meet people instead of realizing she had already met them.
Now is your turn to play a little game which will prove you already have what you are looking for.
Create a game to determine whether you already have your special gift.
1. At the top of the page write what you want.
a. Example: My job is boring and I want a new job.
2. Draw a line down the center of the page.
3. List in the first column everything you would like in a new job.
3. List in the second column everything you like about your current job.
4. Compare both lists and see what items appear on both of them.
5. Journal what you have discovered.
Most of the time you will realize there are many things you like about your current job.
After completing the exercise please let me know what you have discovered. I can be reached by leaving a comment on this blog or sending an email to helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net.
CHOICES WE MAKE
We have a choice either we can think about what is going wrong in our lives or think about what is going right in our lives. I have found that most of the times our minds make the choice for us. This morning as I was waking up my mind started thinking about an upsetting situation which made me feel bad and took all my energy. After thinking about it for awhile I realized either I could role play this situation in my head or think about something that puts a smile on my face. Making the choice to change my thinking took awhile and slowly my thoughts started to change.
Why do we automatically start thinking about upsetting thoughts instead of happy ones? Thinking about this for awhile I came up with the following ideas:
Benefits of Thinking Upsetting Thoughts
1. Familiar feeling.
2. Not having control over the outcome of the situation we start thinking of ways in which we are the controllers.
3. Feels good to feel sorry for ourselves.
4. Gives us an excuse to procrastinate.
5. Looking for sympathy from others.
Benefits of Thinking Happy Thoughts
1. Makes us feel good and gives us plenty of energy.
2. Motivates us.
3. Puts a smile on our face.
4. Self-confidence and we feel proud.
5. Creates commitment
We have a choice either we can walk around feeling good or trying to think of ways to change a situation that has already happened. For today which choice do you make? I know that thinking happy thoughts will give me more energy, motivation and put a smile on my face. The next question how do you change those thoughts. Following are some ideas:
1. Acknowledge the thought and when the thought stops start thinking about something that made you happy.
2. While thinking the unhappy thought give yourself a big hug and say out loud, “I feel sorry for you and I love you.” Giving ourselves sympathy sometimes makes us feel better.
3. Journal about the situation and think of ways you can let go of the negative thoughts.
4. Put a smile on your face while you are thinking and usually the negative thought will disappear.
5. For today, don’t talk about your unhappy thoughts only what makes you happy.
Have a beautiful day and make a choice to think happy thoughts.
I received the story below as an email this morning and felt you would enjoy reading it.
The Difference Between Rich/Poor People
One day, the father of a very wealthy family took his son on a trip to the country with the express purpose of showing him how poor people live.
They spent a couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be
considered a very poor family.
On their return from their trip, the father asked his son, “How was the
trip?”
“It was great, Dad.”
“Did you see how poor people live?” the father asked.
“Oh yeah,” said the son.
“So, tell me, what you learned from the trip?” asked the father.
The son answered:
“I saw that we have one dog and they had four.
We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden and they have a
creek that has no end.
We have imported lanterns in our garden and they have the stars at night.
Our patio reaches to the front yard and they have the whole horizon.
We have a small piece of land to live on and they have fields that go beyond
our sight.
We have servants who serve us, but they serve others.
We buy our food, but they grow theirs.
We have walls around our property to protect us, they have friends to
protect them.”
The boy’s father was speechless.
Then his son added, “Thanks Dad for showing me how poor we are.”
Isn’t perspective a wonderful thing? Makes you wonder what would happen
if we all gave thanks for everything we have, instead of worrying about what
we don’t have.
Appreciate every single thing you have, especially your friends!
Pass this on to friends and acquaintances and help them refresh their
perspective and appreciation.
“Life is too short and friends are too few.”
I would love to hear your thoughts on the story above. You can leave a comment on this blog or send me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net
‘Life is my college.
May I graduate well,
and earn some honors!’
Louisa May Alcott, novelist
Does something happen in your life that is frustrating and then you get angry? If you answer “Yes” to this question you are not alone. Feeling angry was a daily occurrence for me until I learned a little secret.
I learned just recently that I have a choice, either I can get angry over the situation or think about a solution to the problem. At first this action was very challenging until trying it for over a week it started to become easier. I love the expression, “When your car won’t start you can either call someone to fix it or get angry and hurt everyone in your path, you have the choice.”
Let me tell you my little story. I changed newsletter providers and in order to continue receiving Life’s Little Journeys Newsletter by Helen Burton you have to sign-up with the new provider. A limited number of people were responding to the email. At first I felt frustrated and got very angry at myself for changing providers. Then I remembered to accept my anger and not to ignore or fight it. Once I acknowledged my feelings, it disappeared and I was able to think about solutions for the problem. My assistant suggested we send out the newsletter by email and request everyone sign-up with the new provider.
I personally invite you to sign-up for the Life’s Little Journeys by Helen Burton. All you have to do is sign-up on this blog (right side above my bio) or send me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net.
In the past I would have taken out my anger on the people closest to me and had a miserable day. Instead I acknowledged my anger and with my assistant’s help we found a solution to the problem. As Louisa May Alcott in the quote above eloquently put it, you are learning from your college of life.
I invite you to try the following little experiment and see if it makes a difference in your life:
1. You are angry about something that happens in your life.
2. Acknowledge yourself for feeling angry and the circumstances around it.
3. Think about a solution to the problem or discuss it with some else and find solutions together.
4. Try one of the solutions.
5. Let me know what happens by leaving a comment on this blog or send me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net.
Join the Getting Off the Diet Merry-Go-Round Community by sharing your wisdom, successes and lessons learned. All it takes is one little step, leave a comment on the blog or send me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net.
What are you doing nice for yourself today?
Helen
Are you struggling with food and feeling frustrated with your life? You are not alone!! I am finding, from working with clients, talking to my friends and my own personal experiences that our attitude determines whether an experience is good or bad. Let me explain.
Let’s take an example. You start the day off eating a healthy breakfast and an hour later you start eating pretzels. After the third pretzel some miracle happens and you decide to stop eating. At that point you can either determine that you are having a bad day and feel sorry for yourself or just say you had a slip and continue eating healthy for the rest of the day. Just thinking you had a slip and what lesson you learned will create a good experience. On the other hand, when you dwell on what happened and feel sorry for yourself you automatically think it was a bad experience. Therefore, our attitude determines if we had a bad or good experience.
I invite you to try a little experiment. Today be aware when something happens whether you consider the situation to be a learning experience or you start to feel sorry for yourself. The first step is awareness of what is happening and then you can make changes in your behavior and thinking.
As always, I would love to hear from you about your experiences while on your life’s journey. Please feel free to contact me with your discoveries from today’s experiment, by leaving a comment on this blog or sending me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net
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