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A Social Media Webinar Series for Professional Coaches
Presented by Helen Burton and Joanna Carides
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In this webinar, you will quickly understand how to use Facebook,
LinkedIn and Twitter specifically for growing your coaching practice.
We will be revealing:
- How easy it is to set up your profile and be a leader in your industry.
- What not to do, when building your following.
- Decide which media site is best to develop your business.
- Remove your overwhelm about Social Media, once-and-for-all!
- The perfect formula for posting your status updates.
- The secrets to drive more traffic to your website and blogs.
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Dates:
Facebook on March 17 & 24
LinkedIn on April 14 & 21
Twitter on May 5 & 12.
Participate in the webinar from the comfort of your home or office! All you need are a phone, computer and Internet access.
Cost:
$65 per topic (two one-hour sessions)
10% discount for registering for your choice of 2 topics: $117
20% discount for registering for all 3 topics: $156
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“One kind word can warm three winter months.”
Japanese Proverb
Do you think and say kind words about your business? Unfortunately, most of us think about what is not going right.
When we have successes our feelings turn towards excitement and joy. Why is it so hard focusing on those times instead of finding things to worry about?
Simply, we are human beings and wired to think that way.
When you start thinking about your business in a negative way. Stop, take a deep breath and say in a powerful voice, kind words about your business. An example would be, “My business is achieving its goal by helping business people.”
Even though this little exercise sounds simple it is very hard to do. It takes practice, practice, and more practice before it becomes a new habit. Remember…a habit takes about 21 days to become natural.
Constantly think, “ I will say kind words about my business.”
Please share your experiences with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community. Sharing our experiences and thoughts with each other enables us to create successful businesses in a loving way.
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Tags:Achieving Goals, business marketing, business struggles, client marketing, Coaches, Coaching, feeling alone, feeling empowered, ICF, NJPCA, PACA, professional
I would like to introduce you to my new social media partner Joanna Carides, Brand New Day Media, LLC.
Below is an article written by Joanna.
Become More Social in 2010!
You may be thinking, “What is she talking about? I have enough on my plate and really can’t add anything else.” You’ve got a lot going on. Everyone does these days.
Still, you can make your customer/client relationships that much stronger by using social media in a smart, efficient way.
Here are a few tips to help you out:
- For 20 minutes, before you start your workday
- Draft an email to 1 or 2 contacts you’d like to (re)connect with via your facebook fan page. Be sure to include your facebook fan page URL. Tell them why you want them to join you on facebook (info, tips, strategy, events). Save the email drafts.
- Review your Twitter followers and decide whom you want to follow back. Remember, you don’t have to follow everyone that follows you.
- Post a morning Tweet. Greet your followers with a positive quote or share what inspires you today.
- For 15 minutes, at the end of your workday
- Review, tweak, and send out those 1 or 2 emails (see above) inviting key contacts to join you on facebook. Note: personalize each email to the individual recipient.
- Post a closing Tweet. Share with your followers something special that happened today. Or pose a question to your group. The number of people who respond by the next morning will surprise you. This is a great way to organize your Twitter topics and keep people on point.
By the way, another benefit of using my tips is gaining free time for you to actually get out and meet some of the terrific people with whom you’ve been electronically communicating. Now, wouldn’t that be nice for a change?
Social Media Basic Training – How to use Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter for your Coaching Business
You can learn more about how to efficiently use social media for your business by registering for Social Media Basic Training – How to use Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter for your Coaching Business. This is a social media webinar series for professional coaches, coming in March, April and May 2010. I’m honored and thrilled to be partnering with Helen Burton to bring you this educational, hands-on workshop. More details to follow shortly. Stay tuned.
We haven’t failed.
We now know a thousand things
that won’t work,
so we’re that much closer
to finding what will.
~ Thomas Edison
Running your business sometimes feels like you are always climbing a mountain and never reaching the top. Then all of a sudden you are taking the right steps and getting closer to the peak of the mountain.
Like Thomas Edison said, we are not failing when are new advertising program is not working we are discovering what techniques to change.
I decided my new niche would be working with the Unemployed to find work. Created a website, ordered business cards and started advertising this new service. As time went on I realized that the unemployed were afraid to spend money and hire Love Yourself Coaching. My saving grace was that the clients I did work with each one of them found a job.
At first I kept trying with very little success to find new clients. It finally hit me that I needed to change my focus. Reading Thomas Edison’s quote, realized I did not fail and was closer to finding what will work.
Please share your experiences as a business owner so we can all work together in finding what will work instead of just climbing that mountain with little success.
I look forward to hearing from you.
Helen
“Positive Thinking Is…
…not always the easiest course of action
when confronting difficulties.
If, however, we can remain focused
on keeping hope strong and
not succumbing to negative influences,
we will meet with success
in dealing with anything
life may throw in our path.”
~ Hiram Rogers Lloyd
Truer words have not been spoken, staying positive is not the easiest thing to do. The feelings of fear and sadness overwhelm us in a flash.
What are we to do?
My old stand-by is to let them come and know the feelings are temporary moments. You will make it through and the feelings will fade.
The other day I was writing an article and all of a sudden the pain of loss returned in such intensity that I could not breathe. My initial reaction was to do something that would make me feel better.
I ran out to my car and went to the local Duncan Donuts for coffee. To my surprise the pain remained. Coming home the tears started flowing and I was once again consumed by my sadness and fears.
I then tried affirmations and wrapped myself in a blanket. Nothing worked. Just sitting there with my coffee and not moving the pain started to lessen. Within time I was starting to feel better.
What I learned from this experience was not to fight my emotions, be with them and within time my mood brightened. I was then able to function again and complete the article.
Nothing in this world will take our feelings of fear and sadness away. Our only line of defense is to experience the moment and have hope things will get better.
Please share with the Unemployed Community what fears and sadness you are experiencing. Letting others know your true feelings will take the pain away and together we will create a positive journey for us all.
I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
“Of all the liars
in the world,
sometimes the worst are
your own fears.”
~ Rudyard Kipling
Your own FEARS play such a big part in your life especially while traveling on the familiar unemployed path.
I once heard fear is “False evidence appearing real.” We are experts at telling ourselves we will never find another job, my family hates me because I am unemployed, I am a failure, etc… In reality none of these fears are true.
Let’s stop here and take a deep breath. Close your eyes and say out loud, “I am safe and opportunities are popping up all the time.”
Reassuring ourselves we are safe and something will happen are our magic keys for feeling okay and giving ourselves the motivation to continue riding the waves of this journey.
What could you do differently today so the creative juices keep flowing and new opportunities are surfacing?
Take a moment before jumping into any new action and think about your past experiences. What worked and what didn’t?
Little exercise you can do:
- List 5 actions you took that worked.
- List 5 actions you took that did not work.
- Review both lists.
- Pick the most successful action step.
- Chose the the most disastrous one.
- Create an action step that takes into consideration both the successful and disastrous ones.
Doing this exercise you will realize what steps worked and which didn’t. Then you can move forward and create an action steps taking both aspects into consideration.
Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters Community your most successful and disastrous action steps. We can learn from each other.
Remember to play our little game. Wednesday is a day for Miracle Awareness. During the day look for miracles, write them down and say them out loud.
It is very lonely being out here alone and would like to hear what is going on in your life. I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
“Sometimes it seems I’ve spent my life
trying to live up to others’ expectations of me,
and failing. I never thought much about pleasing myself.
That would have been “selfish.”
~ JoAnn Reed
Isn’t it ironic we spend most of our lives trying to please other people and never thinking about what would make us happy?
Then when we lose our job we blame ourselves and never take into consideration it could be a blessing in disguise. How many of us hated our job and always thought, “Only if I could find another job that I really loved?”
Now that we are traveling the unemployed journey we keep thinking our last job was the perfect job. We have a tendency to always turn our thinking around and put things we lost on a pedestal.
Let’s get real here for a moment and think about what you hated about your last job.
Here is your opportunity to start pleasing yourself, maybe for the first time in your life, and find a job that will make you happy.
This is not an easy task!
Some little steps you can take to start the process:
- Think back through the years about what made you happy. Examples: being with people, drawing, crafts, writing, science, etc.
- List these ideas on a piece of paper. Be honest this is for your eyes only.
- Rate them from 1 to 3. One being the least interesting and three brings a smile to your face.
- List all the number one ideas.
- Chose which one really makes you excited.
Once you have decided which one makes you energized it is time to explore your options.
For today think about your new found realization. Tomorrow is another day and we can explore your options.
Enjoy the happiness you are experiencing!
Share your uncovered passion with the Love Yourself – It Matters Community. Remember…we are all in this together. Let’s make this unemployment journey a time of learning and turning our lives around.
I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
“Be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars.
In the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace in your soul.”
~ Max Ehrmann
Sunday is a day to be gentle with yourself. The other 6 days of the week are for worrying, constantly taking risks and pushing yourself harder each day.
Sunday most businesses are closed. You can also close your business for a day.
Today is time for a vacation. What makes you happy? Watch a sports game, take the family away for the day, ride your bike, etc.
No excuses, you deserve a day of rest!
When we give ourselves permission to take a vacation from the stresses in our lives we instantly feel better and start to enjoy ourselves.
Let’s make Sunday, Vacation Day.
Vacation Tips for Sunday:
- Eat a picnic lunch near the water or in the woods. I know it might be cold this time of year so bundle up.
- Bike ride or hike along a quiet path in a wooded area.
- Window shop and plan how to re-decorate your favorite room.
- Invite friends to your house and have a pot-luck dinner.
- Put your feet up and take a nap on the couch.
- Watch an old movie on television.
- Sleep late or go to bed early.
- Read a good book.
- Go to a park and watch a football game.
- Take your art supplies out of hiding and start working on your master piece.
Let’s add Sunday to our little game.
- Monday is Smile Day.
- Tuesday is Dancing Day.
- Wednesday is Miracle Awareness Day.
- Thursday is Feeling Like a Winner Day.
- Friday is Acknowledging your Strengths Day.
- Saturday is Friendship Day.
- Sunday is Vacation Day.
Continue playing the game and let the Love Yourself – It Matters Community know about your different experiences.
I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
“When one door closes
another door opens;
but we so often look
so long and so regretfully
upon the closed door;
that we do not see
the ones which open for us.”
~ Alexander Graham Bell
Alexander Graham Bell’s quote has been around a long time and very familiar to us all. On the unemployment journey we have a tendency to focus on the closed doors instead of the doors that are opening for us.
We are all in this together and learning different behaviors constantly.
Today is Friday, the end of the week. Think back about a Friday when you were working and how excited you were the week was over. There is no difference today, you worked all week researching job options, attending interviews and been on an emotional roller-coaster.
It is time to take a break and regain your emotional strength.
Some small steps you can take to replenish your positive energy:
- Put that smile on your face even though it may hurt. Wearing a smile tricks your mind into thinking you are happy. Within a matter of minutes your attitude changes.
- Call yourself on the phone and list all your strengths. Example: Great personality, very intelligent, fantastic communication skills, etc. Saying your strengths out loud makes them seem real.
- Leave a comment on the Love Yourself – It Matters Blog, telling us about your strengths. We are a family of unemployed folks who are supporting each other with new ideas and strategies in finding that new job.
Let’s make Friday, Acknowledging Our Strengths Day.
Our little game is teaching us how to take one positive action step and practice it for a day.
Remember…Monday is Smile Day. Smiling when meeting people gives you an inner-strength.
Tuesday is Dance Day. Dancing provides energy, exercise and having fun at the sametime.
Wednesday is Miracle Awareness Day. Reminding yourself about the miracles occurring during your day provides security in your life.
Thursday is Feeling Like a Winner Day. Acting like a winner gives you the courage to take risks and have faith things are working out.
Friday is Acknowledging your Strengths Day. Realizing you have many strengths empowers you to hold your head up high and feel good about yourself.
Let’s continue promising each other we will take time each day to enjoy the day by playing our little game. Smiling on Monday, dancing on Tuesday, looking for miracles on Wednesday, acting like a winner on Thursday and acknowledging our strengths on Friday.
I can’t wait to hear all about your strengths.
Helen
“Thinking as a
One-Hundred-Percent-of the-Time
Winner”
~ Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
Thinking like a winner
means not always
having to defeat someone else.
It means being able
to grow from a situation in which
you fail to reach your goal.
It involves not demanding
perfection from yourself
in every single thing you do, but,
instead, thinking of yourself as perfect
and thus capable of growing.
It means reminding yourself that
perfection doesn’t mean
staying the same;
it means being able to allow yourself to grow.
Thinking as a winner means
not coming down on yourself;
it means refusing to allow
self-repudiating thoughts into your head.
It involves pushing out the inclination
to evaluate yourself in comparison with others,
and giving yourself permission
to be the unique person you are.”
Today is a new day and let’s practice being a winner while on the unemployed journey.
Remember…you are a winner just the way you are with all your knocks and bruises.
Life takes us on different paths. Some times we are happy, other times we are sad and other times we feel frustrated. You are the same person you have always been even though your feelings are changing constantly.
It is our job to constantly remind ourselves we are winners. As Dr. Wayne Dyer says, “We have to feel good about ourselves, learn from our situations and give yourself permission to be the unique person you are.
One small step you can take when you are feeling sad or frustrated about your situation STOP and take a deep breath. Then say out loud, “I am the same person I have always been and am a winner.”
Even though thinking the words are false by repeating them often in time you will start believing they are true.
Let’s make Thursday, Feeling Like a Winner Day.
Remember…Monday was Smile Day. What experiences did you have while smiling and having eye contact with different people you met?
Tuesday was Dance Day. Your job was to spend time dancing today and having fun.
Wednesday is a day for Miracle Awareness. During the day look for miracles, write them down and repeat them out loud.
Thursday is Feeling Like a Winner Day. Constantly remind yourself during the day, you are a winner and repeat the affirmation, “I am the same person I have always been and am a winner.”
Let’s make a promise to each other we will take time each day to enjoy our day playing our little game. Smiling on Monday, dancing on Tuesday, looking for miracles on Wednesday and acting like a winner on Thursday.
I am looking forward to hearing from you about the new opportunities that are surfacing while playing the role of a winner.
Helen
“If you can walk
You can dance.
If you can talk
You can sing.”
~ Zimbabwean Proverb
Okay, is everyone ready to have a little fun?
Here we go:
- Blast music from your iPOD or radio, etc.
- Put that smile on your face.
- Dance around your house.
No excuses, just let yourself go and have a good time!
Is your energy pumping and do you feel alive?
Now it is time to take some water and relax.
Every once and awhile we need to just have fun. Everyday is filled with looking for a job or just sitting around and worrying. You deserve time off to forget for a short time and have some fun.
In January of 2008, my husband had a massive heart attack and passed away. At first I was in denial and waiting for him to come home from a business trip. As time went on realization set in and I felt guilty when having a good time.
One day writing on my blog, I realized I was hurting myself by feeling guilty about having a good time. What would be accomplished?
With this realization I put on some music and started to dance around the house. Instantly, I felt better and started to view life in a different way.
Even though your circumstances are different it is up to you to change your thinking. We are human beings and have a special gift to instantly change our behaviors.
Let’s start by taking small steps
Remember…Monday was Smile Day. What experiences did you have while smiling and having contact with different people you met?
Tuesday is Dance Day. Your job is to spend time dancing today and having fun.
Let’s make a promise to each other we will take time each day to lighten our world by practicing smiling on Monday and dancing on Tuesday.
I am look forward to hearing about your new attitude that emerged while you were dancing around your house.
Helen
“…knowing that, in the grand scheme of things,
we live in a world where rainy days
eventually give way to sunnier skies.”
~ Jason Rogerson
While on our unemployed journey, Jason Rogerson’s quote is worth repeating to ourselves constantly.
I know right now we are only focusing on what is not happening instead of the fact this is just a small portion of our lives. A day, month or year is just a blip in our lives.
Think back to the time when you were working, complaining about your job and wishing you could take a vacation. Now we look at that time as the sunny skies and today being unemployed as the rainy days.
It is all a matter of perception. How can we change our thinking and focus on the sunnier skies instead of the rainy ones?
Let’s start by taking small steps.
Are you up to playing a little game? It is called the Smiling Game.
- Walk out your front door and go to the nearest coffee shop.
- Walking into the coffee shop, put a smile on your face. You don’t have to mean it just use those smile muscles. It is a scientific fact when you use your smile muscles your body has no clue if you are smiling it just feels better.
- Make eye contact with the first person you see with that smile on your face.
- Continue smiling and making eye contact with everyone you see.
Eventually your smile will become natural, people will start talking to each other and YOU will feel better.
A smile costs you nothing and lightens up the world.
Let’s make Monday “Smile Day” and bring a little sunshine into everyone’s day.
Starting today we will play our little game.
Please let the Love Yourself – It Matters Community know what happened as you were playing the Smile Game.
I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
“Perhaps the most valuable result
of all education is the ability
to make yourself
do the thing you have to do,
when it ought to be done,
whether you like it or not.”
~ Walter Bagehot
I hear a lot of screaming in the background and everyone is shouting, “There has to be a better way!!” All of us on the unemployed journey are taking all the steps to find a new job and things are very slow.
What is a person to do? You feel frustrated, tired of trying new and old suggestions and not making any headway.
Okay, it is time to STOP and close your eyes for a few seconds. Think about sitting on the beach, or under a tree, the sun is bright, warm and you don’t have a worry in the world. You can stop worrying for a few minutes your worries won’t disappear.
Just relax and let the feelings of contentment flow through your body.
After awhile open your eyes and put that smile on your face.
Feeling relaxed, what small steps are you going to take today?
Below are some small simple steps you can take today to move forward in your search for finding that new and exciting job.
• Review your notes from yesterday and plan your new steps for today. Once you put your plan into perspective things will not feel overwhelming.
• Go out and buy a cup of coffee or tea. Going outside, breathing the air and seeing other people, you feel part of a community.
• Start implementing your planned action steps for the day. Thinking you are making a difference will make things easier.
• Take a break to eat lunch. Keeping yourself nourished with healthy food gives you energy.
• Finish your action steps for the day. Completing your daily plan gives you a sense of satisfaction.
• Go for a short walk and just relax.
Remember…everyday is a new day and opportunities are surfacing all the time.
Please let us know how you are progressing or what challenges you are experiencing. The Love Yourself – It Matters Community is the support system you are craving.
Looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
“Difficult Times Don’t Last Forever
Sometimes, the problems you must face
are more than you wish to cope with,
and tomorrow doesn’t seem to offer any solutions.
You may ask yourself ‘Why me?’
but the answer is sometimes unclear.
You may even tend to feel that life hasn’t
been just or fair to burden you with such obstacles.
The roads any of us choose to follow
are never free of bumps or curves,
but eventually the turns
lead to a smoother path ahead.
Believe in yourself and your dreams.
You will soon realize that the future
holds may promises for you.
Remember…difficult times don’t last forever.”
~ Geri Danks
Geri Danks’ poem says it all…Life is a journey which leads us through bumps and curves. We experience sadness, anxiety, denial, happiness or contentment throughout the day.
The most important thing to remember is that we are the same person experiencing life in a different way. When scary feelings pop-up all we can do is say out loud, “I am really scared and know deep down in my heart I will find that perfect new job.”
Reassuring ourselves we are going to find that job and difficult times don’t last forever makes the journey easier.
Take a break today and enjoy yourself. There is always tomorrow.
Would love to hear from you and what your journey is like. Working together we will give each other support and ideas on how to find that perfect job.
I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
“A lot of successful people are risk-takers.
Unless you’re willing to do that –
to have a go, fail miserably,
and have another go,
success won’t happen.”
Phillip Adams
(Australian writer)
Why, Why, Why do we have to be risk-takers and sometimes fail miserably to be successful? Do you hate being in the ranks of the unemployed and having to go through this period in your life? I know your answer is a loud, “YES.”
Remember nothing last forever. There is always a silver lining at the end of the rainbow. The next question would be “How do I find that silver lining?” The answer is quite simple take a risk, sometimes fail, get-up and take the next step in front of you.
I know after your hopes have been dashed again it is a struggle to go on. Give yourself a break and feel the pain. You are only human and can only take so much.
During this time, pamper yourself. What are you going to do nice for yourself?
Okay time is up and on to the next step. Below are some small steps you can take to restore your faith and become the risk-taker again.
• Write down your accomplishments.
• Pick-up the phone (don’t make a call) and start reading your accomplishments outloud.
• Put music on and dance around the room.
• Take a small risk that you know will be successful.
• Stand tall and become that powerful person you are.
Remember thousands of people have been unemployed and found that perfect job. You will be one of them real soon.
Now It Is Your Turn!
Send a list of your accomplishments to the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community. Let’s celebrate together!
If you are stuck please let me or the community know and we will brainstorm ideas together. Remember you are not in this ALONE.
Helen
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