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“All the strength you need
to achieve anything
is within you.”
Sara Henderson
Do you sometimes feel all your strength has left your body and you are just existing? Welcome to the world of the unemployed!
I assure you all your inner strength has not gone away. It is just relaxing until you start moving again.
Today was one of those days for me. I woke up to a very humid and foggy morning. Meeting my neighbor for our daily walk was like knocking down a brick wall. A miracle happened and I was able to meet her.
We walked our usual route even though I was lagging behind. Sorry to say I did not feel better when we finished.
Fighting the feelings for awhile I finally gave up and accepted them. I walked into the house and instead of turning on the computer I sat in a chair and read a book. While reading the book, a miracle happened and my energy slowly returned.
What this lesson taught me, we need time to relax instead of driving ourselves constantly.
Some days are harder than others and being kind to ourselves is the best medicine. It has been proven when we take time away from our concerns and worries, just relaxing for awhile renews our strength and creativity. The key to this mind shift is giving yourself permission to walk away and forget for a few moments what is happening in your life.
Do you remember when you are on vacation, your concerns and worries start to disappear and how relaxed you feel? This is your mini-vacation to renew your energy.
Let’s play a little game and take Time for YOU Today. Be aware of your feelings and what opportunities start to occur.
Please share your experiences with the Circle of Inspiration Community. Together we are not alone and support each other in finding our inner strength.
Helen
“Remember, if you ever need a helping hand,
you’ll find one at the end of your arm…”
Audrey Hepburn
It is so easy to forget the most powerful person you have supporting you while on the unemployed journey is YOURSELF. We are constantly looking for others to help. Even though there are others who encourage us, when you come down to the basic truth we are the ones who daily reassure ourselves to continue on the path.
Reassuring yourself can be a difficult task when things are quiet and you have exhausted all your ideas. The important thing to remember while traveling on this journey you will have ups and downs. Some days will be very active with interviews, networking, contacting different leads, etc. and others will be slow.
When you are busy the energy is flowing and hope is running through your veins. On the slow days you have to work extra hard to keep your emotional well being in check.
During the quiet days you can look at them as a special gift instead of losing faith and starting to worry. I know it is hard to turn the feelings around.
Some easy steps you can take are below:
• List all the things that made you happy the last few days. Example: Taking the kids to the park, watching them laugh and have fun.
• Review your successes over the last few weeks. Example: Met two new members at the Networking Event last week and we are having coffee tomorrow.
• Take one small step today that you never tried. Example: Research one of the companies you would like to work for and call to schedule an informational interview. This type of interview is to speak with someone in the same field you are pursuing to see how they got started and if they can offer any advice. Remember people love to talk about themselves.
You are never alone you have yourself and others who love and care about you.
One of the simplest ways of receiving support is to leave a comment on the Love Yourself – It Matters Blog. We are all on this journey together.
I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
“Even if you’re on the right track,
you’ll get run over
if you just sit there.”
Will Rogers
After reading Will Rogers’ quote, did you start thinking there is no rest for the weary? We have to keep going at full speed all the time to research different job hunting techniques. There is so much competition out there I have to be one step in front of everyone else. Our thoughts can keep going on and on and before we know what hit us that dark tunnel starts appearing.
Okay it is time to step back and take control of our thoughts. I know it is so easy to just give up and keep thinking poor me. What purpose will that serve?
Today let’s focus on finding a job through different resources. Learning where to look is the most crucial step we can take.
A variety of job hunting techniques:
• Newspaper classified ads – A typical ad contains information about the type of employee they are seeking, the experience required, job responsibilities, company name, sometimes salary being offered and how to contact the employer. It is important to tailor your cover letter and resume to match the qualifications and contact them the way suggested.
• Sending blind cover letters – If you see an ad and don’t qualify send a cover letter and resume anyway since you have the name of the company and address. In the cover letter state you know that you do not qualify for the position posted in the newspaper. However, you have theses other qualifications and maybe they are looking for a person with those skills. It demonstrates you are motivated and self-confidence. It sometimes opens doors and may lead to a job either now or in the future.
• Telephone Directories – Send out your cover letter and resume. I know it may be a shot in the dark. However, miracles do happen. A company can be in the planning stages and by introducing yourself doors can open for now or in the future.
• Trade or business journals or newsletters – Most publications include a classified ad section and can be an excellent resource in looking for the type of job you want.
• Internet – Use the “search” feature to find a listing of the different jobs available. Some sites: www.career.com, www.careerbuilder.com, www.jobs.com, etc…
• Job Fairs – A way to meet Human Resources staff from various companies. It gives you the opportunity to speak with a company representative for a few minutes and find out about jobs that are available.
• Employment Agencies – Agencies are paid a fee by the employer to find the right candidates and in most instances you will not have to pay a fee. Therefore, their first priority is filling the job for the employer and not you. Remember, they are in the business of finding employees for the employers and have great connections.
There are many more resources open to finding a job. Such as State Agencies, School Placement Services, friends, family, business acquaintances, etc…
Today is a new day and after reading the article what job hunting technique are you going to focus on?
Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters Community some job resource techniques you have used in looking for job. I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
“Achievement is largely
the product of steadily raising
one’s level of
aspiration and expectation.”
Jack Nicklaus (golfer)
How are you doing today?
As your Fairy God Mother, I give you permission to forget your troubles and enjoy the day. Tomorrow is another day and you can start looking for a job again.
Reading Jack Nicklaus’s quote made me think our achievement is simply not losing hope and belief that we will find another job.
I know some days can be harder than others. We have to dig deep into our reserves to pick ourselves up and put that smile on our face.
Once the smile appears and we start to feel lighter often times miracles start happening.
I would like to share a story with you.
Jenny was laid-off from the job she had for 15 years. At first there was no talking to her and as the days went by she fell deeper and deeper into that black hole of misery.
One Sunday morning she was listening to a preacher on television. He was talking about hope and belief in ourselves. Jenny listened and thought about how she had lost hope and belief in finding a job.
During the day, Jenny kept thinking how she could regain her hope and the belief there was another job. As miracles happen, Mary an unemployed friend, called and they both decided to work together.
They devised a very simple plan which included the following steps:
1. Exercise every morning. This gave them energy for the day ahead and to feel good about their bodies.
2. Plan two to three small action steps you would take that day and email them to each other. Example: Research companies you would like to work for, attend a networking event, etc. By planning two to three small steps does not seem overwhelming and makes life easier. Also, by emailing the plan to each other you became accountable.
3. Eat a healthy breakfast, lunch and take 10 minute rest periods during the day. Taking the time for yourself renews your energy.
4. Write down your daily accomplishments. Seeing what you have accomplished raises your self-esteem and makes you feel good.
3. Call each other at 5:00pm each day to discuss your wins and challenges. Acknowledge each other for their accomplishments and brainstorm solutions for challenges. Supporting each other will help you get through this period in your life.
Jenny and Mary supported each other through this difficult time and became great friends. Their support helped each other to stay hopeful and believe they would be working again.
Remember as Jack Nicklaus said, “Achievement is largely the product of steadily raising one’s level of aspiration and expectation.”
Now It Is Your Turn
Share with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community what steps you have taken to restore your hope and faith and keep it flowing.
I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
“Our greatest glory
is not in never falling,
but in rising
every time we fall.”
Confucius
Being unemployed, we are constantly being tested to see our true strength and creativity during this fall.
Thank you, Universe for this beautiful gift!
Just want to throw a little thought out there, we usually bounce back in all situations one way or another. Being unemployed, we still possess this under lying strength to find solutions for the problem we are facing. Sometimes it takes longer than others times to see, understand and put into action a solution.
Jack was riding high, had a great job and loving family. When he heard about anyone losing his job, his thought was, “I really feel sorry for so and so, but that could never happen to me.”
Jack went to work early everyday and stayed late. His work was always completed in a timely manner and everyone loved working with him.
Suddenly, times changed and the company he was working for merged with another firm. Jack still did not worry.
As the weeks and months past Jack kept seeing the writing on-the-wall that there would be lay-offs. No way would he be affected.
Three months later, Jack was called into a meeting. During the meeting, Jack heard words and could not comprehend the thought that he was being laid-off.
It took him months to finally understand what happened. Slowly, his under lying strength to find a solution kicked into gear. Jack joined the Circle of Inspiration for the Unemployed (www.circlesofinspiration.com), found support and creative action steps he could take to find a new job.
Jack’s perspective on life had changed. He is not in denial about what is happening around him and appreciates the little things in life.
Even though Jack is uncomfortable traveling on the journey of the unemployed, his life has changed and he started to feel comfortable with whom he has become.
Therefore, it is true what Confucius says, “Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”
Now It Is Your Turn
Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters Community what gifts you have received while traveling on the journey of the unemployed. Sharing together we can support each other and make this journey a little easier.
I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
Do you ever feel you are alone in the world? You are not alone! This is one of the biggest complaints many people express. We just don’t realize that all it takes is one little step to change this situation and talk to someone.
Sometimes we find it easier to hire a professional, discuss with them our challenges and find a solution. Other times all it takes is calling a friend and scheduling time to have a cup of coffee or tea together. Also, there are 12 Step meetings you can attend, especially Over Eaters Anonymous. What you are doing is interacting with others so you don’t feel alone.
This past week I have been feeling alone and isolating myself from others. My daughter and I share a family membership at a local organic farm and Tuesday is our scheduled day to pick-up our vegetables. My daughter this Tuesday asked if I would pick-up our share of vegetables at the farm. I really did not want to go and out of guilt I told her that I would be happy to pick-up our share. A few minutes later I called my grandson Jeffrey, who hates to go to the farm, and asked if he would like to go with me. I bribed him by saying we would get him a cold drink before we went to the farm. That did the trick and 30 minutes later we were on the way to the farm.
Driving in the car we played games, sang songs and had a great time together. While Jeffrey and I were picking the vegetables there was a photographer from a local newspaper taking pictures. He asked if he could take Jeffrey and my picture. I will let you know if our picture is in the paper.
Not only did I have fun going to the farm, it made me realize that being with someone else I did not feel alone. Who can you spend sometime with today and not feel alone.
As always, I would love to hear about your different experiences, stories and challenges. Together on this blog we can build a community to support each other on our journey of getting off the diet merry-go-round and into a vibrant life. The way to build this community is by leaving comments below this article or sending me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net. I would love to hear from you.
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