Letting the world know about “You”

Letting the world know about “You” can be very frightening

“Get all the education you can,
but then, by God, do something.
Don’t just stand there;
make it happen.”
~ Lee Iococca

Reading Lee Iococca’s quote reminded me of when I first graduated from iPEC Coaching School and kept signing up for more trainings.  I kept thinking I was not ready to go out there and coach.  What if I did not ask the right questions, gave too much advice?  The list goes on and on. 

One day during a coaching session, my coach said in a very strong voice, “It is enough with the different trainings, just go out there and coach.”  I became very defensive and explained why I needed more trainings.  She did not want to continue the conversation and asked, “What were my next steps for marketing my coaching practice?”  It was the greatest gift anyone ever gave me. 

Once I started coaching clients my confidence grew and eventually I knew in my heart that I was a great coach.  Taking that first step and letting the world know about “You” can be very frightening.

Let’s take a deep breath and take that leap!  We are all in this together.

Some simple small steps you can take to overcome your FEAR. By the way, fear is False Evidence Appearing Real. 

• Meditate for a few moments and think about one step you have been putting off over and over again.  Example: Presenting a Workshop.
• Sit there and let all your fears surface.
• Think about the fear that constantly pops up all the time.  Example:  I am afraid no one will sign-up for the workshop.
• Take a deep breath and take in sunshine.
• Let your breath out and let all the fears go.
• When you feel comfortable open your eyes.
• Write in your journal about your constant fear and solutions to the dilemma.  Example:  No one will sign-up for the workshop.  One of the solutions that surfaced was to have the workshop in my home and invite friends and family.

This solution is not a cop-out!  It could be a way of practicing and getting feedback so your next workshop will be easier.   

• Create plans, send invitations and enjoy the process.

Let the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community know about your project and how we can support you.  We are all in this together.

Change, Renew and Rejuvenate

Rejuvenate Yourself

 “We must always change,
renew, rejuvenate ourselves;
otherwise we harden.” 

Johann Von Goethe
(German poet and writer) 

Let’s take this quote apart and see how we can easily implement it.

The first step is to always allow things to change.  We sometimes resist change and keep doing the same thing over and over wishing for a different result.  It is like going to a bakery and looking for something to eat that does not have two calories.  We continue doing the same thing until one day we realize nothing is going to change unless we take a different course of action.

Changing your course of action

• Choose one action step you are currently taking that is not creating the results you desire. Example: Sending emails to prospect clients instead of attending networking events. 
• Evaluate the action and see what small step you can take to change the outcome.  Example:  Instead of sending emails to prospect clients, make a phone call and arrange to meet for coffee or lunch. Building relationships is the key for attracting clients.
• Implement this new action for a month and see what results are occurring. 
• Make necessary changes.

The second step is to renew your passion. Sometimes we feel that we are continually climbing a mountain and our passion starts to diminish.  We are only human and need a ray of sunshine to ignite our fire. 

Ignite your fire

• Write a letter to a loved one telling them how your passion is weakening.  You don’t have to share the letter with anyone. 
• Journal about how you are feeling.
• Call a friend or your coach and schedule time to brainstorm ideas.
• Journal often about the different ideas and opportunities that are developing.
• Keep exploring and enjoy the journey.

Rejuvenate Yourself

Do you take time for yourself?  If you don’t, why not?  Not enough time, you forget or feel it is not important.  YOU ARE IMPORTANT!

I love the expression “In order not to feel resentful of others, take time for yourself first.” It has been proven over and over again when we schedule time for ourselves and then give to others, it is a special gift.     

What are you going to do nice for yourself today?  I am going to pick-up my grandson today from school, go to the library and then out for dinner before attending his Science Fair.  

Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community what changes you are going to make, ignite your fire again and rejuvenate yourself. 

Helen

Learn how to Play BIG this year. Join us for a free virtual presentation, 2/23, 1pm EST.

Dave Buck has a simple, clear message that will help you play big this year… in your life and work.  How do I know this?  I heard Dave speak at a recent gathering and I implemented what he suggested as soon as I got home.  I can honestly say, what he suggests WORKS!  And it really works well.  DAILY I take clear action steps to help grow my business.

If you are at all familiar with Dave Buck, he is entertaining and we all could use a bit of laughter in our lives!

So please join us Wednesday, February 23^rd at 1pm EST.

RSVP today to reserve your spot and begin growing and loving your business again!  Just email Helen at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net.

Play BIG In The World: Dave Buck to speak February 2011

The first presenter for the Coaches’ Coaching Circle and Our Coaching Friends Educational Series is Dave Buck.

Come prepared to learn a new technique, become motivated and move forward with your business!

Details for Call

Date: Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Time: 1:00pm EST and 10:00am Pacific
RSVP: Email Helen at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net to reserve your place.

Please let me know if you are interested by February 16, 2011 so we can make sure there is enough room on the bridgeline for everyone. I can be reached at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net or 609.448.882. I am looking forward to hearing from you.

Dave Buck BIO

Dave Buck is a Master Certified Coach and the CEO of CoachVille, the largest social network for business and life coaches in the world. Dave’s vision is that everyone, everywhere with the courage to play BIG in the world, has a great coach!

As a life coach he has coached over 1,000 individuals one-on-one and in small groups. He has also trained several thousand coaches as the lead trainer for CoachVille’s Center for Coaching Mastery.

Dave worked side-by-side with Thomas Leonard - the founder of the life coaching movement – to create CoachVille in 2000 and became the CEO shortly after Thomas passed away in February 2003

Dave is a Founding Member of the Transformational Leadership Council; a group founded by Jack Canfield (author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series) and includes several leaders of the personal development movement including Wayne Dyer, John Gray and Rhonda Byrne. Many members of the council are part of the hit movie and book The Secret.

Play BIG in the World

Are you ready to play BIG in the world?

Playing BIG in the world means that you are fully expressing your talents and gifts in a way that adds maximum value to the lives of others while bringing joy and true wealth to your life at the same time! It means you wake up every day ready to play with purpose to create possibility vs. going to work on tasks and problems.

To play BIG you have to be willing and able to step up and stand out! You have to be willing to take a risk and be seen and known for who you really are and then boldly share your value with colleagues and customers. You must be clear about your value to others and live true to your purpose in the world. It is challenging, engaging and thrilling at the same time.

The Spirit of Play is the key!

One key to playing BIG in your business or career is to energize your game with the spirit of play! With the spirit of play you tap into a major human energy source that releases your creativity, resourcefulness, resilience and desire to have fun doing what you do. When you do this on a daily basis, you attract opportunities because the people around you are drawn to the energy.

Based on our fundamental understanding that all humans are born with the ability AND desire to play we developed a fundamental theory that ANY endeavor in life can be played as a winnable game. We call our method Play- Two-Win tm because as a coach you only win when your player wins and as a player you only win when your whole team wins. This becomes another point of attraction because people will love playing on your team because they know that you are playing for them to win also.

Traditional methods for coaching and personal growth are often not effective because they are focused on working on tasks and problems. We know that humans learn, grow and produce results better when they are playing and enjoying what they do. So if you want to play BIG in the world AND coach people who desire to play big in the world, you MUST learn this method.

This powerful playshop is designed for coaches AND anyone ready to play BIG in the world.

Details for Call

Date: Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Time: 1:00pm EST and 10:00am Pacific
RSVP: Email Helen at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net to reserve your place.

Please let me know if you are interested by February 16, 2011 so we can make sure there is enough room on the bridgeline for everyone. I can be reached at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net or 609.448.882. I am looking forward to hearing from you.

Entrepreneur’s Secret for Accomplishing Goals

“Be like a postage stamp –
stick to one thing till you get there.
Sheila Graham

Do you wake-up in the morning with the idea you are going to accomplish certain tasks?  Then as the day proceeds you never take action towards any of these projects.

Welcome to the world of the entrepreneur!

This morning getting out of bed, I started thinking about my to-do list.  My day started walking with my neighbor, straightening the house, answering emails, coaching clients and all of a sudden I looked at the clock and it was noon.  To my utter surprise I did not start any of the projects that were on my to-do list.  This pattern happens a lot.

What is a person to do?

Thinking about this challenge, all of a sudden the “Smart Goal” Model popped into my head.  Below is the model:

S = Be very specific
Example: My goals were write an article, research different writing groups, coach clients, food shop, take time to just relax and the list goes on and on. 
M = Measure your progress
Example: My measurement would be completion of the different projects. 
A = Achievable
Example: This plan was not achievable, no way could I accomplish everything in one day.
R = Reasonable
Example: Since all the items were not easily accomplished in one day, I would create a realistic
plan. This plan would be produced by reviewing my goals and choosing which items could be accomplished in a reasonable amount of time.
T = Time Table
Example: Today’s Schedule:
1:00pm – Write Article
3:00pm – Food Shop
4:00pm – Spent time with Jeffrey, my grandson relaxing
6:00pm – Coach last client for the day.

Tomorrow:
8:00am – Research writing groups
10:00am – Create a new plan

 This arrangement sounded realistic.    

Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community your challenges about creating a reasonable daily plan.  I am looking forward to hearing from you.

 Helen

Business Owners Acknowledge Your Greatness

Last month I celebrated my birthday.  As the day was approaching this sickening feeling in the pit of my stomach got stronger.  I started thinking what did I accomplish this past year?  Of course my inner dialogue shouted, “NOTHING!!”

After struggling with this negative thought process for a few days, I decide to call a friend.  To my good fortune she picked up the phone.  After relaying my story, she started to laugh and asked who I was talking about.  The Helen she knew was a beautiful giving person and successful business owner.

As we continued speaking, I started coming out of my funk, admitted the great things I accomplished and the amazing life changes my clients achieved.

Sometimes all we need is a good friend who listens and is supportive.  Eventually we will put our Gremlins to sleep and bask in our greatness.

When you are having one of those days feeling your business will never flourish.  Pick up the phone and call a caring friend or leave a comment on the Love Yourself – It Matters! Blog.

My commitment is that I will get back to you and support you in finding your true greatness.

Enjoy your greatness!

Helen

P.S. I had a beautiful birthday.

Simplify Social Media for your Business

A Social Media Webinar Series for Professional Coaches
Presented by Helen Burton and Joanna Carides

Learn More Here: http://ow.ly/1bOkV

In this webinar, you will quickly understand how to use Facebook,

LinkedIn and Twitter specifically for growing your coaching practice.

We will be revealing:

• How easy it is to set up your profile and be a leader in your industry.
• What not to do, when building your following.
• Decide which media site is best to develop your business.
• Remove your overwhelm about Social Media, once-and-for-all!
• The perfect formula for posting your status updates.
• The secrets to drive more traffic to your website and blogs.

Click Here and Register here now!

Dates:

Facebook on March 17 & 24

LinkedIn on April 14 & 21
Twitter on May 5 & 12.

Participate in the webinar from the comfort of your home or office! All you need are a phone, computer and Internet access.

Cost:

$65 per topic (two one-hour sessions)
10% discount for registering for your choice of 2 topics: $117
20% discount for registering for all 3 topics: $156

Register here now!

Please forward flyer to your Business Colleagues!

Thinking Kindly About Your Business

“One kind word can warm three winter months.”
Japanese Proverb

Do you think and say kind words about your business?  Unfortunately, most of us think about what is not going right.

When we have successes our feelings turn towards excitement and joy.  Why is it so hard focusing on those times instead of finding things to worry about?

 Simply, we are human beings and wired to think that way.

When you start thinking about your business in a negative way.  Stop, take a deep breath and say in a powerful voice, kind words about your business.  An example would be, “My business is achieving its goal by helping business people.”

 Even though this little exercise sounds simple it is very hard to do.  It takes practice, practice, and more practice before it becomes a new habit.  Remember…a habit takes about 21 days to become natural.

Constantly think, “ I will say kind words about my business.”

 Please share your experiences with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community.  Sharing our experiences and thoughts with each other enables us to create successful businesses in a loving way.

Client Marketing 101

Have you ever found yourself sitting in front of a potential client, trying to keep the person engaged about what you do and how coaching can assist them?

And before you know it, you throw the ‘the-coach-who-listens’ out the window, and proceed to talk non-stop, for the next 20 minutes. Ugh!!

We have all been there!

So how do you overcome your infatuation with coaching and still effectively sell to a prospective client?

Here are a few steps that work successfully for me:

1. Prepare an agenda before your meeting.
2. Listen, listen, listen and let the person know you are truly interested in what they have to say.
3. Answer any questions sticking to the point and keep it short.
4. Invite them to be a client when the ‘aha moment’ happens.
5. Keep the meeting short.
6. Remember your prospective client, cares more about themselves than your passion for coaching.

Need support in getting your business launched? Send me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net and together, we can brainstorm easy ideas to get you started.

Dealing with Pain for the Unemployed

“Positive Thinking Is…

…not always the easiest course of action
when confronting difficulties.
If, however, we can remain focused
on keeping hope strong and
not succumbing to negative influences,
we will meet with success
in dealing with anything
life may throw in our path.”

 ~ Hiram Rogers Lloyd

Truer words have not been spoken, staying positive is not the easiest thing to do. The feelings of fear and sadness overwhelm us in a flash.

What are we to do?

My old stand-by is to let them come and know the feelings are temporary moments. You will make it through and the feelings will fade.

The other day I was writing an article and all of a sudden the pain of loss returned in such intensity that I could not breathe. My initial reaction was to do something that would make me feel better.

I ran out to my car and went to the local Duncan Donuts for coffee. To my surprise the pain remained. Coming home the tears started flowing and I was once again consumed by my sadness and fears.

I then tried affirmations and wrapped myself in a blanket. Nothing worked. Just sitting there with my coffee and not moving the pain started to lessen. Within time I was starting to feel better.

What I learned from this experience was not to fight my emotions, be with them and within time my mood brightened. I was then able to function again and complete the article.

Nothing in this world will take our feelings of fear and sadness away. Our only line of defense is to experience the moment and have hope things will get better.

Please share with the Unemployed Community what fears and sadness you are experiencing. Letting others know your true feelings will take the pain away and together we will create a positive journey for us all.

I am looking forward to hearing from you.

Helen

Tips for the Unemployed

“Perhaps the most valuable result
of all education is the ability
to make yourself
do the thing you have to do,
when it ought to be done,
whether you like it or not.”

~ Walter Bagehot

I hear a lot of screaming in the background and everyone is shouting, “There has to be a better way!!” All of us on the unemployed journey are taking all the steps to find a new job and things are very slow.

What is a person to do? You feel frustrated, tired of trying new and old suggestions and not making any headway.

Okay, it is time to STOP and close your eyes for a few seconds. Think about sitting on the beach, or under a tree, the sun is bright, warm and you don’t have a worry in the world. You can stop worrying for a few minutes your worries won’t disappear.

Just relax and let the feelings of contentment flow through your body.

After awhile open your eyes and put that smile on your face.

Feeling relaxed, what small steps are you going to take today?

Below are some small simple steps you can take today to move forward in your search for finding that new and exciting job.

• Review your notes from yesterday and plan your new steps for today. Once you put your plan into perspective things will not feel overwhelming.
• Go out and buy a cup of coffee or tea. Going outside, breathing the air and seeing other people, you feel part of a community.
• Start implementing your planned action steps for the day. Thinking you are making a difference will make things easier.
• Take a break to eat lunch. Keeping yourself nourished with healthy food gives you energy.
• Finish your action steps for the day. Completing your daily plan gives you a sense of satisfaction.
• Go for a short walk and just relax.

Remember…everyday is a new day and opportunities are surfacing all the time.

Please let us know how you are progressing or what challenges you are experiencing. The Love Yourself – It Matters Community is the support system you are craving.

Looking forward to hearing from you.

Helen

Unemployed Risk-Taker

“A lot of successful people are risk-takers.
Unless you’re willing to do that –
to have a go, fail miserably,
and have another go,
success won’t happen.”
Phillip Adams
(Australian writer)

Why, Why, Why do we have to be risk-takers and sometimes fail miserably to be successful? Do you hate being in the ranks of the unemployed and having to go through this period in your life? I know your answer is a loud, “YES.”

Remember nothing last forever. There is always a silver lining at the end of the rainbow. The next question would be “How do I find that silver lining?” The answer is quite simple take a risk, sometimes fail, get-up and take the next step in front of you.

I know after your hopes have been dashed again it is a struggle to go on. Give yourself a break and feel the pain. You are only human and can only take so much.

During this time, pamper yourself. What are you going to do nice for yourself?

Okay time is up and on to the next step. Below are some small steps you can take to restore your faith and become the risk-taker again.

• Write down your accomplishments.
• Pick-up the phone (don’t make a call) and start reading your accomplishments outloud.
• Put music on and dance around the room.
• Take a small risk that you know will be successful.
• Stand tall and become that powerful person you are.

Remember thousands of people have been unemployed and found that perfect job. You will be one of them real soon.

Now It Is Your Turn!

Send a list of your accomplishments to the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community. Let’s celebrate together!

If you are stuck please let me or the community know and we will brainstorm ideas together. Remember you are not in this ALONE.

Helen