Posts Tagged ‘feeling special’
“Often people attempt to live their lives backwards;
they try to have more things, or more money,
in order to do more of what they want,
so they will be happier.
The way it actually works is the reverse.
You must first be who you really are,
then do what you need to do,
in order to have what you want.”
~ Margaret Young
Reading Margaret Young’s quote made me stop and think. Most of us have been living our lives backwards; we are working hard to make money so we can find happiness, instead of connecting within ourselves and feeling the satisfaction we are searching for.
Are you working hard every day looking for new way to find clients and at the same time feeling frustrated? Another way of doing things is to start feeling grateful for your special gifts and sharing them with others.
I know this is a big lump to swallow!
If you were like me, I use to think it was everyone else’s responsibility to make me happy. It took me years to realize that it was my responsibility to take care of myself and not expect others to do it.
Now that we got that straight, we are in charge of our own happiness. What steps can we take?
- Standup and give yourself a standing ovation, “You are fantastic just the way you are.” By acknowledging our own greatness gives us confidence.
- Acknowledge someone today in a way that puts a smile on their face. Yesterday, I met a friend for dinner and noticed she lost a lot of weight. I instantly told her how great she looked and saw the excitement in her face. Complimenting someone else does not only make them feel better, it puts a smile on your face.
- Think about one of your special gifts and share it with someone else. Example: One of my special gifts is listening while a person speaks. I let them know they are heard and understood which gives them the gift of being accepted. We spend most of our lives wishing others will hear and understand us.
- Accepting our life as it is instead of hoping things will be different. Once we learn that we are on the right track things start to move in another direction and we instantly start to feel fulfilled.
- Helping others gives us a sense of satisfaction. One of my clients was going through a very difficult time. During our session together, I asked her what she could do to make someone else happy. Her first response was I can’t make anyone else happy because I feel so terrible. She then thought for a while, told me that one of her friend’s basement was flooded from all the rain and was working very hard to clean up the mess. My client was going to make a dinner for her family and bring it over. She instantly stopped thinking about herself and felt happy again.
It always goes to prove that when you focus on helping others it brings joy to your life. What are you going to do nice for someone today? Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community what action you took and the results it uncovered.
Looking forward to hearing from you. Have a great day!
Helen
“Good Things Happen
When You
Go For ItT!”
~ Alan Webb
Today is a new day! Let’s take out our magic wand, wave it around and create “Good Things” all day.
The first step, ask yourself what would you like to see happen today. Just GoFor It!!
I will start the ball rolling. What surfaced for me was to make a difference in someone’s life today. On a daily basis, we make a difference in the lives of people we interact with. Going out and planning to do something special for someone takes it to a new level.
Who and what could I do for someone today that would put a smile on their face? Many things popped into my mind especially my daughter, Mindi. She started her own accounting practice last year, has been working very hard and now moving out of her home office into an office building. Mindi feels stressed all the time with what is happening and trying to make time for her family. What could I do to acknowledge her as a beautiful and successful woman? My first thought was to take her out for lunch and that would create more stress. Sending her flowers is another option and they are going away for a week so that would not work. Then the thought came to mind, just bring her a beautiful card that says how proud I am of her and give her a big hug.
Sometimes little things make the biggest difference. What could you do today for someone in your life that is experiencing difficulties? Please share your plan and the impact it made in their life.
Let’s go out today and make a difference in someone’s life. Enjoy!
Take Care,
Helen
- Close your eyes and sit silently for a few minutes.
A thing of beauty
is a joy forever.
~ John Keats
Close your eyes and sit silently for a few minutes. Picture yourself sitting under a big tree smiling, and feeling relaxed. That is a thing of beauty!
We continuously have a choice to either feel good about ourselves or be our own worst enemy. Which one do you pick today? I choose to be kind to myself today!
I am sitting here with a smile on my face thinking about what I am going to do special for myself today. Below is my dream day.
- Think of happy thoughts all day and every time an unhappy thought pops into my head simply say, “No drama today.”
- Make myself a healthy and delicious breakfast. My favorite pancake recipe:
- ¼ Cup of Cottage Cheese
- 1 Egg
- ¼ Cup of uncooked Oatmeal
- 2 tbls. of water
- 1 Cup of Yogurt
- 1 Cup of Cut Up Fruit
Mix the cottage cheese, egg, oatmeal and water together. Pour the mixture into a frying pan and cook over a low heat. When pancake is cooked put it on a plate, add the yogurt and fruit. Enjoy!
- Work for half a day.
- Make myself a healthy salad for lunch. I always add cooked vegetables to a mixed green salad, protein, rice and salad dressing. For dessert I have fruit.
- Buy myself a small gift.
- Take a leisurely walk with a good friend along the Princeton Canal. Make sure we laugh a lot.
- Meet friends for dinner.
- Take a nice long bubble bath.
- Read a book and go to sleep early.
Doesn’t that sound like a special day? No DRAMA and being kind to myself all day long.
Please share your dream day with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community. Together let’s create “BE Kind to You Day.” Looking forward to hearing about your special day.
Helen
“We have a mental block inside us
that stops us from earning more
than we think we are worth.
If we want to earn more in reality,
we have to upgrade our self-concept.”
~ Brian Tracy
After reading Brian Tracy’s quote what were you thinking? Do the following thoughts sound familiar?
- Is this the reason I am not making money?
- How do I change my thinking?
- I knew all along it was my thinking that was stopping me.
The thoughts can go on and on.
Okay, let’s take a step back and see what is really happening here. Most of us are always looking for a solution to a problem. Wouldn’t it be easy to change our thinking and our problems would disappear?
What I am learning is that sometimes I am my own worst enemy. My thoughts start telling me all crazy ideas. When this happens I take a deep breath, picture a STOP sign and tell myself “I am worthy of being paid for my services because I am a great coach.”
Brian Tracy’s quote sounds so simple and at the same time upgrading our self-concept can be a very difficult task. How do you go about it?
Helen’s mind is at work… Below is a simple plan you can follow:
- Go into a room with a mirror and close the door.
- Take a deep breath and look into the mirror.
- Say the following words out loud:
- “I am a special person.”
- “I am providing a service.”
- Repeat these two sentences three times. The first time with your eyes closed, second time looking at your nose and the last time look into your eyes. As you continue this exercise it will get easier.
- Repeat this exercise for a week and then only look in your eyes while saying the two sentences out loud.
After a month of reassuring yourself that you are a special person and providing a service, your attitude will change.
While practicing this exercise please stay in touch with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community. We are in this together and by supporting each other things will change.
Keep in touch!
Helen
Ten Steps to Help You
Enjoy Your Day
1. Look at your day as 24 hours, consisting of different experiences. Some experiences you enjoy and others move you forward in a different direction.
2. Do your best. We are only human and mostly everything we do is with good intentions. When you find yourself acting in a way that is destructive to yourself or others start changing your behavior. You are only hurting yourself.
3. Acknowledge others. Celebrating accomplishments of others, gives you hope which changes your thinking and actions. You are more empowered to look for possibilities.
4. Trust what is happening. A disappointment now opens the door to other successes down the road. Learn what you can do different next time.
5. Be compassionate to yourself and others. This is a trying time and taking the time to acknowledge yourself and others gives everyone a sense of security.
6. Don’t worry about something after it is done. Learn from the experience and take steps in a different direction next time.
7. Acknowledge your negative thoughts. Remember these are only words going through you mind and not real. You have control over your thoughts and can stop them at a moments notice by thanking them and thinking about something which makes you happy.
8. Accept everyone as they are. Most people don’t have a hidden agenda and want to hurt anyone. They are only acting in a way they think will help you. Sometimes we have to let the person know in a loving and kind way they have hurt us.
9. Have the attitude that no one owes you anything. We are the only one who can fulfill our basic needs. Sometimes give yourself a big hug.
10. Love yourself and put that smile on your face. You are a beautiful person.
Enjoy your day!!
Now It is Your Turn!
Pick one of the ideas listed above and practice it all day. Be aware of the different feelings you have and what opportunities are happening.
Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community what steps you take to ensure you have a beautiful day.
Looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
“Use what talents you possess;
the woods would be very silent
if no birds sang except those
that sang best.”
Henry Van Dyke
Even though you lost your job, remember you are still the same person. Nothing can take away your special gifts.
Stand-up and take a bow acknowledging the beautiful person you have become and your special gifts!
You might say I don’t have any special gifts. Hold on there, we all have them.
Let’s focus for a minute what comes easy to you. Do you have a beautiful smile, people feel comfortable being with you, great sense of humor, or are you a math wiz, etc.?
Feeling better?
Let’s do a little experiment today. During the day write down what makes you a beautiful person. No need to share the list.
For some of us who had trouble thinking what people like about me. Try this simple exercise:
• Think about a close friend and what you like about that them.
• Write these traits down.
• Ask yourself this question “Do I also have some of these qualities?”
• Now list your special gifts.
Once you have created a list review it in the morning and evening. Pick one special gift you possess and practice it three times that day. As the days go, add another special gift each day and in time you will be practicing all your gifts each day.
Remember what Henry Van Dyke said, “Use what talents you possess; the woods would be very silent if no birds sang except those that sang best.”
Go play full-out and enjoy the beautiful person you have become!
Please share your feelings after reading this article. The Love Yourself – It Matters Community is here to be your support system. I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
Are you being kind to yourself? Today is a new day and we have a choice to either continue doing the same thing and hoping for another result or do something different.
I was thinking about why we are the hardest on ourselves. The thought popped into my mind the reason being we want to look perfect and to achieve that we have to be hard on ourselves. How can we change this situation and be kinder to ourselves. I asked my clients, coaches, friends and family members what they do to make sure they were kinder to themselves. Following are some suggestions:
1. Before getting out of bed in the morning decide what you are going to do nice for yourself that day. Make sure you do it!
2. Be kind to yourself.
3. While taking a shower sing your favorite song.
4. After putting your make-up on look in the mirror and tell yourself, “You look pretty.”
5. After shaving looking in the mirror and tell yourself, “You look handsome.”
6. Today only eat healthy meals.
7. Spend time alone each day daydreaming.
8. Spend time with your family members sharing what made you happy today.
9. Reading your “Happiness Journal.” A journal listing all the things that made you happy in the past.
10. Keep telling yourself, “I am perfect just the way I am.”
What ideas can you add to the above list? Please let me know and together we can create a list of suggestions to ensure we are the number one in our lives. You can leave your suggestion on the blog or send me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net.
Affirmation: I am the number one person in my life today!
