Posts Tagged ‘happiness’
“Far away there in the sunshine
are my highest aspirations
I may not reach them
but I can look up and see their beauty,
believe in them and try
to follow them.”
Lousia May Alcott
Lousia May Alcott’s quote enables us to have dreams, beliefs and the luxury of not having to accomplish goals overnight. What a great concept!!
As human beings most of us want things instantaneously and do not have the patience to wait over a period of time. I always think, if I knew the outcome beforehand it would be easier to wait for the end result. No such luck, life is a mystery.
Living in the unemployed journey you may feel: unsettled, frustrated, optimistic, happy or just numb. We go thru all these feelings during the day. One moment you feel good and suddenly your next thought comes crashing your hopes and dreams.
Welcome to the human race!!
Cheer up! There are some very simple steps below you can take to brighten your outlook.
• Close your eyes and tell yourself, “I am safe and in the process of finding a new job.”
• Start laughing. It maybe hard at first and as you continue laughing it will get easier.
• Take a 10 Minute Mini-Vacation by doing something nice for yourself.
Examples: Have a cup of coffee or tea, read a fun novel, take a walk, etc.
Sometimes you feel totally alone on this journey and the truth is there are many people in the same situation. Working with others not only helps you feel part of a team it also enables you to share information and support each other during this time of uncertainly.
My goal is to help you and others find that perfect job, make money and be happy again.
Please join the Love Yourself – It Matters Community by leaving your stories, hopes, dreams in the comment section. Together we will design viable options for finding employment in this time of uncertainly.
If you are not traveling on the unemployed path please tell others you know who are experiencing the journey about this blog.
I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
‘Life is my college.
May I graduate well,
and earn some honors!’
Louisa May Alcott, novelist
Does something happen in your life that is frustrating and then you get angry? If you answer “Yes” to this question you are not alone. Feeling angry was a daily occurrence for me until I learned a little secret.
I learned just recently that I have a choice, either I can get angry over the situation or think about a solution to the problem. At first this action was very challenging until trying it for over a week it started to become easier. I love the expression, “When your car won’t start you can either call someone to fix it or get angry and hurt everyone in your path, you have the choice.”
Let me tell you my little story. I changed newsletter providers and in order to continue receiving Life’s Little Journeys Newsletter by Helen Burton you have to sign-up with the new provider. A limited number of people were responding to the email. At first I felt frustrated and got very angry at myself for changing providers. Then I remembered to accept my anger and not to ignore or fight it. Once I acknowledged my feelings, it disappeared and I was able to think about solutions for the problem. My assistant suggested we send out the newsletter by email and request everyone sign-up with the new provider.
I personally invite you to sign-up for the Life’s Little Journeys by Helen Burton. All you have to do is sign-up on this blog (right side above my bio) or send me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net.
In the past I would have taken out my anger on the people closest to me and had a miserable day. Instead I acknowledged my anger and with my assistant’s help we found a solution to the problem. As Louisa May Alcott in the quote above eloquently put it, you are learning from your college of life.
I invite you to try the following little experiment and see if it makes a difference in your life:
1. You are angry about something that happens in your life.
2. Acknowledge yourself for feeling angry and the circumstances around it.
3. Think about a solution to the problem or discuss it with some else and find solutions together.
4. Try one of the solutions.
5. Let me know what happens by leaving a comment on this blog or send me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net.
Join the Getting Off the Diet Merry-Go-Round Community by sharing your wisdom, successes and lessons learned. All it takes is one little step, leave a comment on the blog or send me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net.
What are you doing nice for yourself today?
Helen
‘The happiness habit is developed by simply practicing happy thinking. Make a mental list of happy thoughts and pass them through your mind several times every day. If an unhappiness thought should enter your mind, immediately stop, consciously eject it, and substitute a happiness thought. Every morning before arising, lie relaxed in bed and deliberately drop happy thoughts into your conscious mind. Let a series of pictures pass across your mind of each happy experience you expect to have during the day. Savor their joy. Such thoughts will help cause events to turn out that way.’
Norman Vincent Peale
Happiness Thoughts:
1. Feeling proud of yourself while eating only the food on your healthy eating plan.
2. Exercising and laughing with someone next to you.
3. Eating a delicious healthy meal with good friends.
4. Thinking about all the great accomplishments you have achieved in my your life (i.e. graduated from college, being a loving and supportive wife or husband, great mom or dad to your kids, the time you made a difference in someone’s life, etc.)
5. Talking on the phone with a good friend.
6. Sitting under a big tree and watching the world go by.
7. Watching the birds, squirrels, chipmunks and rabbits play in your backyard.
8. Riding in a car with your young grandchildren and playing monster games.
9. Listening to music and reading a fun novel.
10. Reading happiness memories from your “Happiness Journal.”
Enjoy your happiness day!
As usual, I would love to hear from you. Please let me know how you are proceeding on your journey of life or if you need any support. You can either leave a message on my blog or send me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net.
JEFFREY’S GOD STORY
By Helen J. Burton
Jeffrey, my 6 year old grandson, couldn’t find his DS Gameboy (DS). He and his parents for days searched the house, car and any place they could think of where the DS could possibly be located. No luck! After the second day, Jeffrey became very upset and started to cry because his mother would not buy him another DS. Mindi my daughter suggested that he ask G-d for help because sometimes after praying he could receive an answer of where the DS was located. So Jeffrey tried this new idea and went into his bedroom to ask G-d for help. After awhile he came out and told his mother that he did not get any answers. They then had a discussion about how sometimes it takes time before receiving any answers. He then watched television for awhile and went to bed.
While Mindi was on the computer checking her emails, she received an email from the babysitter with pictures she took while watching Jeffrey on Saturday. In one of the pictures was a picture of Jeffrey holding his DS. Mindi emailed the sitter and asked if she knew were the DS was located. The sitter sent back an email saying the DS was in the garage. She checked and sure enough the DS was there. The next morning when Jeffrey came down for breakfast sitting on the kitchen table was his DS. Mindi, told him what happened and Jeffrey said, “See how G-d helped me find my DS.”
After hearing this encouraging story, it makes me stop and think about all the miracles
G-d has given me and how I simply take them for granted. Some of the miracles I have received from G-d are as follows:
· Having a loving relationship with my husband, family and friends.
· Watched my granddaughter play the flute last night in the School’s Spring Concert. There were 7 family members watching her.
· Having an opportunity tomorrow to attend the play, Bill Wilson and Dr Bob Story” in New York City with 40 other people.
· Watching the trees and flowers start to blossom.
· Blogging and connecting with others.
What revelations did you get out of reading Jeffrey’s God story, I would love to know.
I would like to share with you my dream. This morning as I was lying in bed meditating, I saw myself in front of a black door bolted closed. Suddenly the door started to open just a crack; I saw a blue sky with flowers all around and realized this was the Land of Abundance. I tried to open the door and it was bolted shut. Suddenly the door flew open and I ran through it scared to death. When I got on the other side of the door it slammed shut again. I started to dance and thought what a miracle! I am now in the Land of Abundance and receiving many, many gifts.
After having this dream I realized that I am already receiving many gifts and have been living in the Land of Abundance my whole life. Up until six months ago this would be a foreign thought to me, as I was only focusing on the things I didn’t have instead of what I did have. Everyone’s life was better than mine and I was always struggling. In November 2006, I heard a Key Note Speaker say, “Focus on what you have instead of what you don’t have.” this expression changed my life. I started thinking about the things in my life that were gifts: recovery from over and under eating; my health; supportive family and friends; Alife and Alice (my two loving cats); my successful coaching business. Once I started living life from a different perspective, things started changing. I am excited about life, taking risks, not jealous about anyone else’s life and for the first time in my life I can really say, “I love my life.” Some of the tools I use everyday to ensure my thinking stays positive and focused on what I have instead of what I don’t have are:
• At night I think about three things that made me happy during the day.
• Whenever I have a negative thought, STOP and say out loud two positive thoughts. The first positive thought cancels out the negative thought and the second one makes me feel positive.
• If I am going to eat something not on my food plan, ask myself, “Is this the choice I want to make?” and then do something else.
• During the day share with my husband and friends things I am grateful for instead of complaining.
• Give myself ten minutes a day to complain to Alfie and Alice.
Would love to hear about your life and what tools you use to stay positive.
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