Posts Tagged ‘love yourself’
“One has just to be oneself.
That’s my basic message.
The moment you accept yourself as you are,
All burdens, all mountainous burdens,
simply disappear.
Then life is a sheer joy,
a festival of lights.”
Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh
Indian spiritual master
We constantly hear this same message over and over again. I am sad to say that if we accept ourselves as we are live becomes easier.
Your response might be, “I tried to accept myself and then I hear this little voice in my head screaming, “Who are you trying to kid, you are still fat, can’t lose weight, and get it through your head nothing will ever change.” The thoughts go on and on…
What can you do differently to let the thoughts continue and still at the same time accept yourself? This change in behavior takes time and can be accomplished by practicing small steps daily.
Some of the small steps you can take:
• When a thought enters your mind and starts screaming critical things about you. Picture a STOP sign and instantly say outloud, “I am in the process of… Example: Thought, “I can’t go to the party tonight because I gained twenty pounds.” Picture a STOP sign. Then say out loud, “I am in the process of losing weight and have lost 5 pounds.”
The idea is to change the thought and accept yourself as you are.
• Only wear clothes that fit. I know times are financially difficult for you right now. On the other hand, if you buy one or two inexpensive outfits that makes you feel attractive, it can make a world of difference.
By feeling comfortable in your clothes you will automatically accept yourself and feel attractive.
• Look at your face in the mirror and smile. Focus on the color of your eyes, your smile and say out loud, “You are beautiful, charming and a gift to the world.”
When we acknowledge who we are it gives us a sense of well being and then we start to accept who we are.
• Be kind to yourself. This maybe the hardest step and the one that is the most beneficial. You have a choice to either take an action that will hurt or help you. Example: You have a choice to either say something hurtful to someone or acknowledge them. By acknowledging the person, it gives them a feeling of acceptance and brings a smile to their face. You will also smile and feel good.
When others feel appreciated you start to accept yourself as a loving person.
Now it is your turn to experiment.
For the next four days try one or all of the steps above and see what happens. Please let the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community know what happens and whether you are feeling more accepting about yourself.
My special wish for you is to enjoy the holidays without any stress. As a gift to you, I have created a short video as a reminder to treat yourself with love.
When you can, take some time out to relax and watch a brief (under 2 minutes) video by clicking this link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jBxaeqrQoMM
Enjoy!
Helen
Below is an article I wrote which has been published in various publications:
Easy tips to celebrating the holidays.
(from inside a food addict’s world)
You look great! You have been in charge of your eating and exercising all year and you love the way you feel.
Now, with your renewed confidence, you open your first holiday invitation for the season!
Are you ready? What is going through your mind….? Wouldn’t it be nice to enjoy the holidays without worries of losing control of your eating?
If you think you could use some support to get through this season, you are not alone. Most people with diet concerns struggle each holiday season, feeling frustrated and anxious.
Helen Burton, Get Off the Diet Merry-Go-Round Coach for individuals struggling with food, says, “The holidays have been reduced to getting things ‘done’ instead of taking care of ourselves.” Burton gently reminds her clients that “when self-care and self-kindness stop; sabotaging behaviors begin.”
Burton says her clients find this time of year very challenging. “Especially in our current world’s economic stress, many people are having difficulty making healthy food choices.
Burton has been working with clients for 6 years, helping them to build strong behavior habits that help control their eating. “We meet over the phone to strategize the challenges of their week and build strong coping skills. We have been preparing for the holidays since August!” Burton said.
This season, Coach Burton recommends a few easy tips to help you feel confident, before heading to your holiday parties. Use any combination of her ideas to help you enjoy a wonderful holiday season.
• Call the host a few days before the party to find out what they were serving.
• Plan what you will eat before going to the party.
• Put a ‘good luck rock’ in your pocket and touch it often to remind yourself that You are Special.
• Only, put food on your plate that you plan to eat.
• Do not go back for more food, under any circumstances.
• Pick two new people at the party you would like to get to know more about.
Introduce yourself!
• Slip outside or into the bathroom whenever you feel overwhelmed.
• Use Imagery. To help calm any anxiety, picture a bright light protecting yourself.
• Seek out friends at the party and ask for support.
• After the party, tell a friend or professional coach about the experience you had at the party. Talk about which behaviors worked successfully for you.
• Reward yourself by lightening a candle and listening to your favorite music before going to sleep.
With the right choices in behavior and surrounding yourself with supportive people, you can have a wonderful holiday season.
Make this time of year about meeting and spending quality time with people instead of focusing on the food. According to Burton, “All it just takes is a slightly different focus and things can be made easier.”
Action Step: Now it’s your turn!
How are you preparing for the holiday season? Do you have a tip that works well for you? Share it with Helen on her blog at www.theloveyourselfcoach.blogspot.com.
Wishing you a beautiful holiday season sprinkled with many happy memories!
Helen J. Burton, ACC, works with individuals who are tired of struggling with food. Register to receive more tips about how to be kind to yourself while Getting Off the Diet Merry-Go-Round at www.theloveyourselfcoach.blogspot.com.
“Feeling gratitude and not expressing
is like wrapping
a present and not giving it.”
William Arthur Ward
Tomorrow in the United States we are celebrating Thanksgiving Day. I thought the day was about getting together with family members, eating turkey, all the other foods associated with the holiday and feeling sick because I ate too much. It never dawned on me it was a day of thinking about what you are grateful for and sharing your thoughts with others.
Many years ago when I first started on my self-growth journey, I was at a seminar and the leader suggested that we share what we were grateful for at our Thanksgiving meal. My first taught was that my family would think I was crazy and I was not going to do it. The next day I made a decision to try the exercise.
While everyone was enjoying our Thanksgiving meal, with fear in my stomach, I asked, “Everyone to say one thing they were grateful for.” At first everyone looked at me with that look in their eyes. Then my husband said, “He was grateful for being with everyone today.” Everyone joined in and it has become a family tradition to list our grateful list during the meal.
What I am grateful for this year:
• Personal Growth. I have grown personally by leaps and bounds. Today I look at life from a different perspective by enjoying each day as a special gift.
• Family and friends. I am so lucky to have family members and friends whereby we support each other.
• Eating healthy and exercising. Taking care of my body so I remain healthy, energized and active.
• Love Yourself – It Matters! Community. A community that supports each other in living life peacefully, happily and learns from life situations.
Now it is your turn!
Try asking everyone at your Thanksgiving meal what they are grateful for and let us know what happens. You can leave a comment on the Love Yourself – It Matters! Blog.
Also, I invite you to leave your Grateful List on the blog and share it with others.
Wishing you a happy Thanksgiving Day sprinkled with many special memories!
Helen
Periodically I invite other authors to publish an article on the Love Yourself-It Matters! Blog. Following is an article written by Bonnie Marcus.
Do We Need to Be More Selfish to Be Successful?
When we came into this world as infants, we were very focused on having our immediate needs met. Life was simple. With more “socialization“, we began to respond to those around us and our thoughts turned outward. Our parents, friends, and teachers were more interested in finding ways to have us please them than to have us please ourselves and we lost touch with whatever internal guidance system we had. We became more OUTER directed and motivated by the approval and disapproval of others. We started to look for ways to please everyone else and if we made a decision to please ourselves and meet our own needs first, we were labeled as selfish.
As women, we have extra baggage around this issue because our society has taught us that women should be nurturers. The assumption here is that we need to take care of everyone and make sure that they are happy and healthy and all their needs are met. According to traditional roles, the fact that everyone is happy should be enough to make us happy because that is our responsibility. If everyone is happy, we are doing our jobs well. Of course, if there is some time after all this is done, it is acceptable to do something for ourselves. Otherwise, we are SELFISH.
These limiting beliefs have so many implications for women in our society. As more and more women enter the workforce and are trying to keep their lives in balance, the stress builds. If we believe that we need to please everyone in our families, our relationships, our work place, what happens to US? How can we do all this and be successful at work too?
How many times at work have you taken on other people’s needs before tending to your own?
How many times have you taken on the work of others with the attitude that “If I don’t do it. Who will?”
How many times have you avoided necessary difficult conversations because you did not want to offend someone? You want to be well liked.
How many times have you not taken credit for your work well done because you want to be viewed as THE TEAM PLAYER. Perhaps you don’t accept compliments graciously.
There have been SO many articles, books, blogs done about the necessity for balance in our lives and how important it is to take care of number one. What about taking care of number one at WORK? What do we need to do to advance our careers and get credit for the work we’ve done? Maybe we need to be more focused first on our needs and our career path than meeting the needs of everyone else at work.
Bonnie Marcus, M.Ed, CEC
Certified Executive Coach
Email: bonnie@womenssuccesscoaching.com
www.womenssuccesscoaching.com
Bonnie and I would love to hear your opinions. Do we need to be more selfish to be successful?
Please leave your comments on the Love Yourself - It Matters! Blog and Bonnie will get back to you.
“Sometimes things which at the moment
may be perceived as obstacles –
and actually be obstacles, difficulties, or drawbacks –
can in the long run result in some good end
which would not have occurred
if it had not been for the obstacle.”
Steve Allen
Do you sometimes feel no matter how hard you try to lose weight it is not coming off or life just gets harder everyday? You are not alone!
Steve Allen’s quote implies that in the long run the obstacle can be a blessing in disguise. I know that might be hard to accept while you are focusing on the obstacles, difficulties or drawbacks.
Think of the time when you felt life was very difficult and after awhile things started to get better. Your perception of life changed or you received a gift from the Universe that you never expected to happen.
Ida was constantly trying to lose weight and every diet she started ended in failure. She started thinking she would be heavy for the rest of her life. With that attitude Ida ate everything insight. Within a few weeks she gained over 10 pounds and became more depressed.
One day reading the Love Yourself – It Matters! Blog, she read that the secret to losing weight was “Self-Kindness.” Ida read the article a few times and immediately felt better. She got in touch with Helen and they started working together.
Ida’s thinking and behaviors started changing and before she knew it food was not her main focus in life. She started feeling better about herself, taking night courses and socializing again.
Ida worked with Helen for over 6 months and in that time the weight started melting away. Today Ida maintains a healthy weight and practices self-kindness daily. Ida is also grateful for the fact she struggled with her weight because it enabled her to become the healthy, happy person she is today.
Now It Is Your Turn!
• Take a piece of paper and describe the difficulty you are focusing on today.
• Write why it is causing you such pain.
• Describe what would have to happen to resolve the situation.
• Write the steps you would have to take to resolve the situation.
• Decide which small step you are going to put into action and by when.
• Be mindful of what miracles are happening as you are taking the small step.
Please let the Love Yourself –It Matters! Community know by leaving a comment on the blog what miracles are occurring as you are taking the small step to resolve the difficulty.
I am also available to support you in anyway I can. Just leave a comment on the blog and I will get back to you.
Remember the secret to success in every situation is self-kindness.
Helen
“Much of the satisfying work of life
begins as an experiment;
no experiment is ever
quite a failure.”
Alice Walker
Does this sound familiar? You were following a diet, feeling good about yourself and then suddenly you find yourself eating again. What happened? It does not matter what triggered you into picking up the food. This is an everyday occurrence among those in the world of dieting. Please, please do not beat yourself up. There is a solution.
I remember the time I was on a diet for almost two months and the weight was coming off. One day after leaving a Networking Event, I walked past Duncan Donuts and saw all the donuts and muffins. I heard my mind saying, “You have been on a diet for almost two months so go buy yourself a small donut, it can’t hurt. My thoughts had a good time arguing among themselves. Before I knew it, I was in Duncan Donuts ordering a cup of coffee and a dozen donuts. I was too embarrassed to buy only one donut and had the idea I would bring them home for my husband and daughters. Guess what? The donuts never made it home. The only thing that arrived home was my anger at myself for eating them.
Let’s look at what you could have done differently if you were in that situation and your loud thoughts started drowning out your good intentions. Acknowledge the thoughts and thank them for helping you. Then say out loud, “I will eat something later and right now I deserve to buy myself a fun novel.” Immediately get into your car and go to the bookstore. The idea is not to make food an option and find other activities that make you happy. The most important thing is to start that activity right away instead of waiting for later.
Following are a list of ideas you could try instead of eating something:
1. Call yourself on the phone and leave a message bragging about how you are taking care of yourself by staying on your healthy eating plan and how much better you feel.
2. Have your nails done or get a pedicure.
3. Take a long walk and think about the things in your life that you are grateful for.
4. Call a friend and see if they want to meet for coffee and, if they agree, leave immediately.
5. While walking down the street make up positive stories about the people you are passing. I love doing this it puts a smile on my face.
Now it is your turn!
Leave a comment on the Love Yourself – It Matters! Blog bragging about the different steps you are taking and your successes. I love hearing from you and celebrating your new behaviors!
If you are struggling with food and have questions please leave a comment on the Love Yourself – It Matters! Blog and I will address them in my next article.
Do something nice for yourself today!
Helen
“Blessed is he who has learned
to laugh at himself,
for he shall
never cease to be entertained.”
Josh Billings
What thoughts are you thinking when reading Josh Billings’ quote.? Do you take the time to stop and laugh at yourself or are you seriously thinking everything is so hard?
I had a problem with Alfie, my cat finding mice in the basement, killing them and bringing me a present; the dead mouse. Finding the mice made me crazy. I was tiptoeing around the house with a flashlight and looking everywhere before entering a room.
On a Sunday morning at 6am I called Mindi, my daughter, hysterical asking her to come over right away because there was a dead mouse in my basement. Her first response was come to my house. I said, “No” because I wanted her to get rid of the mouse. We proceeded to have an argument and after awhile we hang-up the phone on each other.
Twenty minutes later she was waking into my house asking where is the mouse. We both gingerly walked down the basement to find the mouse. Lying on the floor next to my cat was a half dead mouse. We both started screaming. Thank God Mindi was able to get it into a bag and out into the woods.
Before leaving she told me to live in the solution. I told her she was the solution. We were both upset with each other for a few days.
The other day a picture of that Sunday morning of us both screaming over a mouse popped into my head. Thinking about it, I started to laugh and realized what a funny story it was. I called Mindi laughing at the experience and we both had a good laugh.
Alfie, my cat has not been allowed down the basement since that day. Thank God there haven’t been any more presents left at my feet.
What I learned from the situation is there is a solution for every problem. Taking action by not letting Alfie in the basement has solved the problem. Also, it makes life so much easier to have a good laugh over your fears.
I would love to hear your stories. Please leave them in the comment section of the Love Yourself – It Matters! Blog. Together we will all have a good laugh.
As Josh Billings states, by laughing at ourselves we will always be entertained.
Helen
“Beginning Today…
Today
look in a mirror
and notice
that the person
who greets you
is beautiful,
inside and out.
Today
say to yourself that
you know nothing is
impossible.
Remind yourself that
every one of your dreams
is within reach.
Today
think about all of
the people who love you,
who see the beauty in you,
and begin to look at yourself
in the same way.”
~ Lise Schlosser
What were you thinking while reading the above quote? Most of us can logically say we are that beautiful person inside and out, nothing is impossible and we share our many gifts with others. Do we truly believe that in our hearts? The answer is “NO.”
We are human beings and have lived many years letting our thoughts tear away at our greatness. It is time to change!
What can you do differently? Chose one of the small steps below to start looking at life from a different perspective.
1. Read Lise Schlosser suggestions daily.
2. Look in the mirror and wink at the person looking back at you.
3. Decide on one very tiny step you can take to accomplish your goal. Example:
Your goal is to lose weight, just for today eat a piece of fruit instead of a high calorie snack.
4. Write yourself a love letter acknowledging who you have become.
Take time for YOU today! Make a choice to start thinking and acting differently. You are worth it! Today, after implementing one of the above steps please let the Love Yourself – It Matters Community know what happens.
Looking forward to hearing from you. Helen
I want to thank everyone for either leaving comments on the Love Yourself – It Matters blog or sending me emails with inspirational messages. Your messages have helped lift my writer’s block.
What helped the most is letting me know that you are reading the blog and been making changes in your life. We are all on this journey together and by supporting each other it makes life exciting and easier.
Looking out the window the sun is shinning, the birds are sitting in the trees and the squirrels are running around the backyard. Taking the time to enjoy my surroundings is such a special gift.
Are you taking the time to slow down for a couple of seconds and enjoy either a conversation or take the time to relax? We are all programmed to live life in the fast lane and see how much we can accomplish.
I was having a conversation this morning with a client on this topic. Patti, name changed, did not consider the time she spent relaxing during the day as being productive. Her day was spent on meeting deadlines and things she had to do. Then when 9:00pm rolled around she got into bed and watched television to relax.
I asked her if she had a spare minute in the morning, afternoon and evening to just relax. Her answer was a loud, “YES”. What could she do in those 3 minutes a day? Patti thought about it for a few seconds and said, “I could take a deep breath and close my eyes.”
Patti tried her new mini-vacation by closing her eyes and taking a few deep breathes. She instantly felt relaxed and her voice was softer. Patti made a commitment to practice this exercise at least three times a day.
Now it is your turn to take three minutes a day to relax, or have a fun conversation or enjoy your surroundings. Why not take that minute right NOW and see what happens.
Please share your experiences with the Love Yourself – It Matters Community and together we will enjoy life’s journey.
I am looking forward to hearing from you. Helen
Hi Everyone:
Today I am going to write you a letter letting you know what is going on with me. After speaking with Karen Miller, Publicist at lunch today about my finding it hard to write she quickly told me I have Writer’s Block.
At first I was relieved and then started to worry about how am I going to get through this new challenge. Not only is it hard to write, I feel guilty because there are a lot of you looking at my blog daily and there are no new posts. Please forgive me.
Karen explained that the only way to walk thru the challenge is to keep writing and eventually the words will flow again.
Hearing those words I made a commitment to Karen and now the Love Yourself – It Matters Community I will write on the Blog at least three times within the next seven days.
Thanks for listening and if anyone has any ideas or tips for making the journey easier please let me know by leaving your ideas in the comment section.
Thanks and look forward to hearing from you.
Helen
While driving in my car the other day I heard the expression, “Pocketful of Sunshine.” Immediately, I thought of using the saying as a tool to help me stop my negative thoughts and put a smile on my face. Within a few seconds a negative thought popped into my mind, I instantly reached into my pocket and started sprinkling sunshine around me. It put a smile on my face and I felt better.
This morning during the Monday Morning Wake-Up Action Call, we discussed how using the expression, “Pocketful of Sunshine” can make a difference in our lives.
Some of the benefits for using our Sunshine are as follows:
• Brightens your mood instantly.
• Makes you feel confident.
• Always available to help with negative thinking.
• Enhances your special gifts of laughter, smiling and having fun.
• Helps others to put a smile on their face when they see you smiling.
We are a society of instant gratification. We are constantly, trying to find things that will make us happy right away. We have finally found the tool of sprinkling sunshine around us to put a smile on our face and create happiness.
Now it is your turn to close your eyes and pull some sunshine out of your pocket and sprinkle it around you. What happens? Now open your eyes and share your findings with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community.
Happy New Year to the Jewish Love Yourself – It Matters! Community members.
Helen
“Relax and have fun over the next couple of weeks.
Remember, you’re making memories at every moment.
Make sure that yours are worth remembering:).”
Cheryl Richardson
Cheryl Richardson’s quote was in a newsletter she sent last year during the holiday season. Reading the quote this morning I felt this action applies to everyday of our lives not only during the holiday season.
Do you find yourself worrying, not laughing and just feeling overwhelmed by life? You are not alone there are many people experiencing the same feelings. Okay what could we do in the next 15 seconds to bring a smile to our faces?
I have an idea close your eyes and think of a funny situation. The other night I was on the phone speaking with a book agent and trying to be very professional when all of a sudden I realized my cat had a mouse in her mouth. Instantly I started to scream my cat has a mouse in her mouth which ended the conversation immediately. Speaking to him the next day he thanked me for the good laugh.
Screaming scarred my cat and she dropped the mouse and went to hide. I called Andrea, my neighbor who came over immediately. I could not stop screaming, was so mad at Bob for dying and leaving me alone to deal with the situation.
Andrea and I with flashlights were crawling all over the floor looking for the mouse who we could not find. All of a sudden we looked up and my cat was just staring at us probably thinking what are they both doing. We both started to laugh so hard at what was happening.
The next evening I found the dead mouse in her water bowl. Screaming very quietly because all my neighbors were sleeping I threw the water bowl in the garbage. Today the exterminator company is coming to make sure I don’t have any more mice and to plug up some holes.
Reading Cheryl’s quote reminded me that I am making memories all the time and every time I tell anyone this story I am sure we will laugh.
What funny story brings a smile to your face? Please share it with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community. Together we will bring a smile to each other’s faces. I am looking forward to hearing your stories. Helen
I received an email today with a link to the Peace Today Movie and would like to share it with you.
In honor of 9/11 – Please watch www.PeaceTodayMovie.com
When each and everyone of us takes one small step towards creating peace in the world we will achieve it. Start by saying a kind word to people you meet on a daily basis.
Helen
Achieving goals by themselves
will never make us happy
in the long term:
it’s who you become,
as you overcome the obstacles
necessary to achieve your goals,
that can give you the deepest sense and
most long-lasting sense of fulfillment.
Tony Robbins
After reading the quote what thoughts came to your mind? Did you think the most important thing is reaching my goal and if I don’t reach it I will never be happy? Don’t feel bad you are not alone.
I have found that when we want something so bad we focus on it all the time and don’t take the small steps to achieve the goal.
Jamie, name changed, was always talking about losing weight and felt like a failure because she kept on gaining weight. She continued eating unhealthy foods that were loaded with calories and prayed that she would lose weight. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and hoping for a different result. It was not surprising that she did not lose the weight.
What could she have done differently to achieve her goal? No rocket science answer, all she had to do was take small steps to change her behavior and thinking.
Taking small steps to change your thinking and behavior is a great concept and sometimes hard to implement. We are often not aware of what we could do differently. Following are some ideas in helping you decide what small action steps you feel comfortable taking:
• Think about why you want to reach your goal. Is it to feel healthier, have a better relationship or feel more contentment in your life?
• Write down your thoughts or tell someone else what you have been thinking. Getting the thoughts out of your head you start to take action.
• Think about what it would be like when you reach your goal. By thinking about when you reach your goal makes it real.
• List all the action steps you would have to take. Example: Eat a healthy lunch.
• Decide which small step you are going to take and by when.
• Take the action.
It has been proven over and over again when we succeed while taking the small steps we feel successful. The achievement is in the steps because when we reach our goal most people say, “What is next?”
Now it is your turn to share your thoughts and action steps with the Love Yourself – It Matters Community. Remember by putting your ideas out to the Universe gives you the courage to take the steps. I look forward to hearing from you.
Helen
Today’s thought from Hazelden is:
We learn from making mistakes and repairing them.
“We do not believe in perfection, we believe in mending. We make progress toward a goal, but we seldom move in a straight line toward it without missteps. Life is like a zigzag chain of events that first brings everything together just as we want and then spills it all over again. We try to do our best, but inevitably we make mistakes. So a large part of normal daily life is spent mending.
When we accept imperfection as a fact of life, we make peace with the constant need for repairs. Saying I made a mistake and I owe you an apology is never fun, but when we do it we grow stronger. Every disappointment, every complaint, points to an underlying hope or wish. We can use them to point us to repairs we would like to make. We do not learn anything new from correctly repeating what we already know. We learn from making mistakes and repairing them.
Select one complaint or one mistake that you want to mend and turn it into a learning experience.”
As you are reading the above quote what life imperfection comes to mind? Are you beating yourself for not being in control, having trouble relating to anyone or do you feel you are not moving fast enough in accomplishing your goals?
As I am moving on my bereavement journey sometimes I make a turn and feel like my life is falling apart. It takes a conversation with someone close to me to help me re-enter the right track. As the quote above states, “Life is like a zigzag chain of events that first brings everything together just as we want and spills it all over again.” What I am learning instead of focusing on the mistakes STOP take a deep breath and think about what you learned from the experience.
Francis was always beating herself up because she was a vegetarian and felt deprived if there wasn’t a big bowl of candy waiting for her at the end of the day. She continually told herself, “If I eat healthy during the day I won’t want the candy at night.” As the night proceeded she always sat down with the bowl. Francis even tried having her husband hide the candy and when it was not available she would run to the store and buy more. This pattern went on for a long period of time. What Francis did not realize was if we continue doing the same thing over and over nothing changes. We have to learn from our mistakes and make changes.
We started working together and after Francis told me what was happening we decided to try a new approach to her circumstances. The first step was to stop blaming herself for eating the candy and acknowledge herself for being a loving and kind person. For the next few months Francis worked on making amends to herself for constantly being her worst critic and opponent.
Gradually she started realizing that befriending herself gave her self-confidence and the willingness not to eat the candy and have a piece of fruit and nuts instead. What a beautiful gift she gave herself.
Now it is your turn to select one issue that is making you unhappy and turn it into a learning experience. Do you have to make amends to yourself or someone else or take a new approach? Take the following steps:
• Write about what is making you unhappy.
• List the reasons you don’t want to change anything.
• List what changes you are willing to make.
• Review both lists.
• List the one to two small things you will change and by when.
• Share with someone or let the Love Yourself – It Matters Community know what changes you are willing to make and by when.
• The best gift you can give yourself is ask for support as you are progressing down life’s journey.
Good luck on your new journey! I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
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