Be the Captain of Your Journey

“I’d rather be a failure at something I enjoy
than be a success at something I hate.”
~ George Burns

Recently, I was having lunch with Sheila, a very old friend who has successfully climbed the corporate ladder. I admired her for all that she had accomplished and, honestly, was a little jealous.

During coffee, we started discussing our lives and, to my amazement, Sheila expressed how unhappy she was.  She wished she had taken the same path I did by starting her own business. I sat there staring at her and explained how I admired what she had accomplished and wished I took the same path she did. We both started to laugh!

Of course, as a coach I explained it was never too late to explore other options. I suggested that she start working with a coach. Sheila became very interested in what I had to say and requested I send her the name of a coach with whom she could work.

The important lesson I learned was that we are all human beings with our own unique stories. What a gift we receive when we share ourselves with others.

On the way home, I was thinking how fortunate I am to love what I do, even when I feel frustrated and overwhelmed.  It is amazing how we can think the grass is always greener on someone else’s lawn until we take the time to become aware of what is really happening in our own backyard!

I invite you to complete the exercise below.  Please answer honestly and without any judgment. You will be the only one to evaluate the results.

1. Make a list of all your strengths and special gifts. 
2. Looking back over the years, identify one big accomplishment that changed your life. 
3. What new direction did your life take?
4. Do you feel empowered or unfulfilled?
   1. If you are felling empowered, why do you feel this way?
   2. If you are feeling unfulfilled, journal about steps you can take to improve your situation.  
5. Journal about the vision you see your life taking in 2012.

After completing this exercise, evaluate your answers and journal about the golden nuggets you uncovered.   What are your next steps?

Please let the Love Yourself –It Matters! Community know if you need support in any areas of your business. We are here to support each other. All you have to do is leave a comment at the bottom of this post and I will get back to you.  Working together, we will be able to travel down the road of life in a very supportive environment. I am looking forward to hearing from you.

Helen

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Creating a Thriving Business

“Life would be infinitely happier if we could only be born at the age of eighty and gradually approach eighteen.” 
~ Mark Twain

If we could live our lives backward, imagine how much easier it would be to run a business!  We would all have answers at our finger tips. There would be fewer struggles; and the money would come pouring in.

Unfortunately, life and business have twists and turns and we need to learn from these experiences. For most of us, when we started our businesses everything felt new and exciting; but as time passed, the excitement began to dwindle and frustration set in.

While there is no simple answer, this is a great time to take a personal inventory of your true desires and the path you want to follow.  I’ve approached these crossroads many times and, after taking inventory, found myself moving in new directions. 

For example, I have chosen to change my niche and work with different target markets. When I first started coaching my clientele consisted of women in transition; then people who were retiring. After a few years, my target market changed again, and I worked with individuals who wanted to get off the diet merry-go-round.

Then it changed again, and this time my niche found me. I became a coaches’ coach, and for the last 5 years coaches have been my primary clientele.  My business has flourished and I have never been so creative.  

Now It’s Your Turn!

This simple exercise is designed to help you discover your true business strengths and passion.

• Write your answers to the following questions:
  • What do you love about your business?
  • Describe your ideal client (professionals, teens, young mothers, etc.)
  • List your strengths and skills. 
  • How are you being creative?
  • What support will you need to promote your business?
  • Outline the changes you want or have to implement.
• Read over your answers and highlight details that jump out at you.  Include your ideal client, strengths and skills, along with the support you will need to grow your business, etc.  These items will help you paint a picture of your new direction.
• Close your eyes and picture your business thriving. 
• List the key ingredients for this success.
• Plan your first steps in creating, shifting, or expanding a successful and prosperous business.
• Discuss your findings and plan with the support of a coach, friend or mastermind group.

When your exercise is complete, please share your new business ideas with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community in the comment section below.  Feel free to contact me at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net if you are experiencing difficulty in completing the exercise.

Working together, we will build thriving businesses!

Helen

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Uncovering Your Vision

“Change your thoughts and you change your world.”

~ Norman Vincent Peale

Reading Norman Vincent Peale’s quote made me realize what power we have. The choice is ours—either we can feel disillusioned or powerful and creative. Doesn’t that sound simple and so hard to accomplish?

Is your business taking a vacation during December? Clients are taking time off, and prospecting for new clients is an uphill climb. Here is your golden opportunity to take time for yourself and think about 2012!

We can let our emotions start dictating our lives when we fixate on such thoughts as we are not making much money this month, our business is not growing and we will have to find a new career. Or, on the other hand, we can feel excited about the extra time we have to do the things we want and plan for 2012. The choice is ours.

My choice is to embrace my power and start planning for 2012. This thought alone energizes me.

Steps to take in creating a powerful and rewarding 2012:

• Write yourself a letter describing your dreams and desires for 2012. Include all the aspects of your life—your business, vacations and new opportunities you would like to explore.
• Keep adding to the list for a few days. Our thoughts will keep multiplying when we give ourselves the freedom to be honest and not pass any judgment on our vision.
• When you feel your list is complete, create different categories for your ideas (business, vacations, social events, family and friends).
• Plug the ideas into the different categories. You will be amazed what thoughts surface. Congratulations, you now have your dream list. 
• Choose both a big and a small dream you would like to accomplish. Plan the two steps you will take this week for each dream. Remember, as my mother always said, “Rome was not built in a day.”

Taking time during this quiet time to plan for a powerful and rewarding 2012 is a beautiful gift you are giving yourself. ENJOY THE JOURNEY!

Now It’s Your Turn

After completing the above exercise, please share your dreams and action steps with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community. Sharing with each other creates support so miracles can start happening.

Let me tell you a little story. At a networking meeting last week, the facilitator requested that everyone in the room share their vision for 2012. When it was my turn, I shared that my vision was to support a nonprofit organization working with overweight children. Before I left the meeting, three people approached me with the names of specific nonprofit groups and contact information for people who are working with overweight children. By sharing your dream with others, miracles start to happen right away.

Let’s work together and support each other!

Helen

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Special Moments

Life is like a box of chocolates

“Life is like a box of chocolates.”
~ Forrest Gump

I love this quote. Life at times can be a piece of chocolate in the midst of an entire box of assorted chocolates. Some pieces are familiar favorites while some pieces are rather exotic or unknown. Some pieces turn out to be unexpected pleasures, even though at first glance they seem mysterious or something to be avoided.

My husband past away almost four years ago and yesterday would have been his birthday.  I received a call from my daughter in the morning asking if I wanted to go out for dinner and celebrate her dad’s birthday. My first reaction was no—I just wanted to spend the day hiding and forget about his birthday. All of a sudden, my positive side kicked in, and I agreed to meet her at his favorite restaurant.

I spent the day thinking about the times we celebrated our birthdays together. Sometimes we had the family over and celebrated together, while other times we went away for a few days or had dinner alone. We never forgot about each other’s birthday.

As I’m writing this article I’m thinking how life can be like a box of chocolates. A piece of chocolate is sweet and delicious. My memories during the day were sweet and brought a smile to my face. Meeting my daughter at night was very healing as we discussed our life as a family and what special moments we all shared together. The day turned out to be very special and healing.

Now It’s Your Turn!

When you read the Forrest Gump quote, what special memories come to mind? You can consider these moments as your happy place. Whenever you are feeling a little sad, it’s time to think of those special moments. I’m sure they will bring a smile to your face.

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Small Business Owners Can Experience Happiness at a Moment’s Notice

Happiness is a butterfly

“Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued,
is always just beyond your grasp, but,
which, if you will sit down quietly,
may alight upon you.”
~ Nathaniel Hawthorne

Even though we have been in business for years, we are always looking for “Happiness.” Sometimes we are happy and walk around with a smile on our faces and other times it seems like a pie in the sky. 

What truly is “Happiness?” It means different things to each one of us. For me it is a sense of fulfillment, self-confidence, accomplishment, joy…. The list can go on forever.

When you are happy, what feelings surface for you?

Let’s take this a little further and see how we can bring this sense of happiness into our business. We have the ability to experience this feeling whenever we want. That is a big statement!

Let’s see how we can always have this feeling within our grasp. One way as Nathaniel Hawthorne suggests is “to sit down quietly and let the feeling alight upon you.” Easier said than done!

Since no ideas were flowing as to how we can accomplish this special feeling, I turned off the computer and just sat down quietly to see what would happen.

At first sitting quietly was very difficult. As the seconds passed it became a little easier. All of a sudden I felt a sense of peace and fulfillment. As I enjoyed this feeling a thought popped into my head of all the great things that were happening in my business.

What a great experience!

Now it is your turn to sit in a comfortable chair and let the thoughts surface. Please don’t give up to easily as time passes you will feel more relaxed and a sense of contentment will surface.

Please share your experience with the Love Yourself – It Matters Community. Together we can learn from each other and be able to grasp the feeling of “Happiness” at a moment’s notice.

Enjoy!

Helen

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Having Joy in Your Life

Having Joy in Your Life

“Joy is what happens to us
when we allow ourselves
to recognize how good
things really are.”
~ Marianne Williamson

How many times have you heard Marianne Williamson’s quote?  I am sure it has been over a thousand times.  The trouble being we instantly forget what we heard or read. 

Why do we constantly ignore the simple fact to recognize how good things really are instead of what we don’t have right now?   The reason being we are human beings and are always striving for something.  Life would be pretty boring if we were not working towards a goal.

I really think we can have it both ways.  Let’s think of ways to make this happen.

Here we go!

• Take five minutes during the day to reflect on how good things really are.  Example: I love to write and the Love Yourself Blog – It Matters! is a vehicle where I can be creative and write.  What is really good for you?
• Spend time during the day to focus on what you want to achieve and the steps you are going to take. Example: You want to connect with two clients just to say hello and see how they are doing?  Plan when you are going to make the phone calls and make them.
• Before dinner evaluate your progress.  
  • You took the planned steps, take a bow.  You are amazing.
  • If things did not work out devise an alternate plan.  It is a good idea to determine what stopped you from taking action and how you can overcome the roadblock next time.  Example:   Forgot to reach out to the two clients.  What stopped me was not scheduling time to call them.  Tomorrow I will call them at 10:00am and 11:00am.

Remember you are only human and as my mother always said, “Rome was not built in a day.”  Be kind to yourself and as time goes by habits will become routine.

Please share with our Community what strategies you use to acknowledge the good things in your life and taking action to achieve your goals. 

Looking forward to hearing from you.

Helen

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Change Brings Happiness into Our Lives!

Change Your Thinking

“Things don’t change.
You change your way of looking, that’s all.”
~ Carlos Castaneda

When I read Carlos Castaneda’ quote it really struck me.  How we are always looking for our life to change and never take the time to change our thoughts. 

Castaneda suggests change the way you look at things.  EASIER SAID THAN DONE!

Let me tell you a little story… I am working with a client, who we call Fran.  Her business was steadily growing through the years.  One day she woke-up thinking her business was failing.  If things didn’t turn around quickly she was going to be bankrupt in a few months. 

When she called me, Fran was devastated and could not understand what happened.  Last month she did not feel this way, and was implementing new programs.  All of a sudden she was thinking about letting her team members go and maybe looking for a JOB. 

We discussed what was happening and looked at her business growth objectively.  After checking with her Accountant, Fran was surprised to learn that the profits this month were higher than last month.  What changed was her thinking.

Isn’t it amazing how we allow ourselves to cause suffering in our own lives.

Next time things are running smoothly and you want to shake up your life, implement the following steps.  This exercise also helps people who are facing real hardships in their lives.

• STOP take a deep breath and ask yourself the question, “Is what I am thinking right now, really true and nothing will ever change?”  By stepping back and examining the situation we start seeing our challenges from a different perspective and solutions start appearing. 
• Make an agreement with yourself not to think about your challenge for today.  Every time the thought pops into your head tell yourself, I will think about it tomorrow.  Miracles happen all the time so don’t waste your time worrying about something that can change in minutes.  There is an old saying, “Most circumstances we imagine never materialize.”
• Think of a time in your life when you were experiencing difficulties and within a short period of time everything turned around and your life was better than it was before.  This happens all the time and by visualizing what happened will give you strength and hope to continue. 
• Remind yourself constantly, that you are doing the best you can and the Universe is here to guide you.  
• Think happy thoughts at least once every thirty minutes.  By thinking these thoughts you will start changing your philosophy and a smile will appear on your face. 

As Castaneda says, “Things don’t change. You change your way of looking, that’s all.”

Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community your thoughts about this blog post.  Together we will grow and experience joy in our lives. 

Helen

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Finding Fulfillment by Doing for Others

“Often people attempt to live their lives backwards;
they try to have more things, or more money,
in order to do more of what they want,
so they will be happier.
The way it actually works is the reverse.
You must first be who you really are,
then do what you need to do,
in order to have what you want.”
~ Margaret Young

Reading Margaret Young’s quote made me stop and think.  Most of us have been living our lives backwards; we are working hard to make money so we can find happiness, instead of connecting within ourselves and feeling the satisfaction we are searching for.

Are you working hard every day looking for new way to find clients and at the same time feeling frustrated?  Another way of doing things is to start feeling grateful for your special gifts and sharing them with others.

I know this is a big lump to swallow!

If you were like me, I use to think it was everyone else’s responsibility to make me happy.   It took me years to realize that it was my responsibility to take care of myself and not expect others to do it. 

Now that we got that straight, we are in charge of our own happiness.  What steps can we take?

• Standup and give yourself a standing ovation, “You are fantastic just the way you are.” By acknowledging our own greatness gives us confidence.
• Acknowledge someone today in a way that puts a smile on their face.  Yesterday, I met a friend for dinner and noticed she lost a lot of weight.  I instantly told her how great she looked and saw the excitement in her face.  Complimenting someone else does not only make them feel better, it puts a smile on your face.
• Think about one of your special gifts and share it with someone else.  Example: One of my special gifts is listening while a person speaks.  I let them know they are heard and understood which gives them the gift of being accepted. We spend most of our lives wishing others will hear and understand us. 
• Accepting our life as it is instead of hoping things will be different.  Once we learn that we are on the right track things start to move in another direction and we instantly start to feel fulfilled.
• Helping others gives us a sense of satisfaction.  One of my clients was going through a very difficult time.  During our session together, I asked her what she could do to make someone else happy.  Her first response was I can’t make anyone else happy because I feel so terrible.  She then thought for a while, told me that one of her friend’s basement was flooded from all the rain and was working very hard to clean up the mess.  My client was going to make a dinner for her family and bring it over.  She instantly stopped thinking about herself and felt happy again.  

It always goes to prove that when you focus on helping others it brings joy to your life.  What are you going to do nice for someone today?  Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community what action you took and the results it uncovered.

Looking forward to hearing from you.  Have a great day!
 
Helen

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Enriching Your Life by Making Small Positive Changes

Give yourself a special gift

“Every small positive change
we make in ourselves
repays us in confidence
in the future.”
~ Alice Walker

As we go through our day, we have a choice either to make changes in our thinking and behaviors or just ignore them.  Sometimes it is easier to just ignore the changes instead of taking a risk. Choosing this road we somehow chip away at our confidence.

Give yourself a special gift and take a risk no matter how small.  It will certainly enrich your confidence.  My favorite step is to send someone an email congratulating them for their accomplishments.  By sending the email we both feel good.   

I was working with Tracy, a client, and she was moving ahead slowly in building her business.  In-between our sessions Tracy would take small risks and experienced very little joy.  Until one day during a session, while discussing the possibility of stepping out of her comfort zone she realized this was a difficult task for her. 

Tracy lived life very cautiously after having experienced very difficult times in her past.  Not only had she failed at two businesses the challenges from that situation robbed her of faith and self-esteem.  Needless to say, her self-confidence was not very strong.

We talked about that being her past and today being a new beginning.  What could she do differently to test the waters?   We brainstormed many ideas and nothing actually felt comfortable.  Her low self-esteem was growing stronger by the moment. 

She decided to think about different ideas during the week and email me her thoughts.  We then started talking about how she loved to run and was working with a group of teenagers.  Instantly, Tracy started to get excited and realized by working with the teenagers she was stepping out of her comfort zone. 

What we both learned from that situation is not to only focus on the risks you are taking in your business and to include your whole life.   

An easy exercise to acknowledge yourself for the risks you are taking on a daily basis. 

• At the end of the day take a few minutes to think about your day and what made you excited.  Example: Called a client who I have not worked with for awhile and found out she was opening a Wellness Center.  Her dream had finally come true.
• Take out your journal and write about the part you played in the situation and how you felt. Read through your writing and highlight your feelings. There is no right or wrong way of doing this exercise, just write what comes to mind.  By expressing your feelings it brings to light what makes you happy or sad.   
• Close your eyes and quietly think about other times you felt the same way.  Thinking about other times in your life enables you to realize how you bring joy to others and yourself.
• Plan to schedule time to take advantage of these fun opportunities again. 

Enjoy!

Share with the Love Yourself – It Matters Community what you learned by completing this exercise.  Looking forward to hearing from you.

Helen

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Acceptance of Who We Are

Life is like a rollercoaster.

“There are two kinds of people:
Those who don’t do what they want to do,
so they write down in a diary about what they haven’t done,
and those who haven’t time to write about it because they’re out doing it.”

~ Richard Flournoy and Lewis R. Foster

Reading this quote brought a smile to my face.  Some days I am the first person they described and other days the second one.  We are all human beings and our actions are dictated largely by our attitude.

Some days I wake up in the morning feeling motivated and other times I want to pull the covers over my head.  Either way I have to get out of bed and take action. Feeling motivated means going with the flow and implementing action steps that will move my business forward.  When feeling overwhelmed, it takes courage to start thinking and moving in another direction.

What is a person to do?  Acknowledge what is going on and support yourself accordingly.

When feeling discouraged it is time for pampering.  We all need a vacation from our daily routines. The important thing to remember is that it’s important to regroup and learn what is happening in our lives.  Instead of fighting our thoughts, feelings and blaming ourselves just go with the flow.  Acceptance improves our attitude and we learn from our experiences.  Have faith. You will start feeling motivated again. 

Below are ways to pamper yourself:

• Cook yourself a healthy and delicious breakfast.  My favorite pancake recipe:
  • ¼ Cup of Cottage Cheese
  • 1 egg
  • 1 package of oatmeal
  • 6 oz. container of yogurt
  • 1 cup of blueberries

Combine the cottage cheese, egg and oatmeal together and cook on a medium flame.  When pancake is cooked top it with the yogurt and blueberries.  ENJOY!

• Exercise!  It makes you feel alive and good again.
• Pick out clothes that make you feel good.  
• Work for a few hours.  Continue acknowledging yourself.  Example: After writing an article, acknowledge yourself for how easy it is to write and express your ideas.  
• Sit back in a chair and just relax.  Do absolutely nothing!!
• If inclined, take a bubble bath.
• Journal about your magnificence. I know this may be hard.  Just get started and the ideas will flow.  Example of getting started:  Helen, I want to thank you for taking the time to acknowledge how I am feeling.  This has made a big impact I am starting to regain my self-confidence and my day is beginning to change…  
• Give yourself permission to just be you and do whatever you want. 

Enjoy the time!

Life is like a rollercoaster. By keeping a positive attitude, accepting our thoughts and feelings, and pampering ourselves makes the ride worthwhile. 
 
Good Luck!
 
Helen

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What You Believe Creates Miracles

Within you right now is the power

“Within you right now is the power
to do things you never dreamed possible.
This power becomes available to you
just as soon as you can change your beliefs.”
 
~ Maxwell Maltz

What a strong quote!  If you stop and think about the quote it definitely makes sense.  How many times in your life after changing your beliefs do miracles start happening.

For the past six months I have been thinking how hard everything is in my life.  My business has been growing at a slow pace and that nagging thought of being a widow has been getting to me.  I have been living in the victim role for awhile.
 
I attended an iPEC Life Potential Training and my thinking did a 360 degree turn.  I realized I was the creator of my choices.  I could feel sorry for myself or celebrate my life.  At that point, I decided to celebrate my life, my beliefs changed and miracles started happening.
 
Instead of focusing on my business’ growth, I started thinking about how Love Yourself Coaching was providing a service.  Thinking about this new concept, out of the clear blue sky, the phone rang and it was from a client who I worked with a few years ago.  She called to tell me how our coaching sessions changed her life and wanted to start working together again.  This is one example of how Love Yourself Coaching is changing the lives of one person at a time.  This situation strengthened my belief system.
 
Taking the following steps will assist you in changing your beliefs.

• Write down your beliefs about your business.
• Read through them and underline your positive beliefs
• List all your positive thoughts 
• Pick one thought that jumps out at you
• Say the following affirmation each day after your first cup of coffee or tea
  • I choose to believe that (your positive thought) is happening right now.  Example: I choose to belief that my coaching practice is constantly helping small business owners create prosperous businesses while loving themselves.

Now It Is Your Turn

Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community your affirmation.  By letting others know about your belief makes it a reality.  At the same time the Universe will hear it and support you in making it real.

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Need Help from My Friends

If you aspire to the highest place,
it is no disgrace to stop
at the second or even
the third place.
~ CIERO, 106-43 BC
(Roman orator, statesman and essayist)

I can’t believe after all these years we are still receiving the same advice.  In one of Cheryl Richardson’s books she stated, “When planning your exercise program, always plan on a reasonable amount of miles you will walk each day instead of pushing yourself unrealistically.  For example plan on walking 2 miles a day instead of 4 and when you have walked the 4 miles imagine how good you will feel.  On the other hand, if you walked 4 miles it will even feel better.” I paraphrased what Cheryl had stated.
 
I have always taken this advice.  At first it was a challenge to post every day.  As time went on, I realized this was not in my best interest.  Some days I had other commitments and blogging was not an option.  By relaxing and not pushing myself so hard the blog posts improved.  More people sent me comments and my blog started attracting traffic.
 
After a few years, I started cutting back on posting articles and before I knew it days and weeks would go by before I posted an article. I have been in this slump for a long time.  Some thoughts for reversing this slump:

• The first thing in the morning before looking at my emails, at least twice a week, make myself a cup of coffee and write an article for the Love Yourself – It Matters! Blog. 
• I am committing to the Love Yourself – It Matters Community that I will post at least twice a week.  This is very scary!
• Please send me emails after you read my post.  That way I will know people are reading what I write, which makes me feel more committed.
• Striving to be in third place it will give me an opportunity to celebrate. 

Please, please members of this community; I need your support and ideas so that I can move forward. 

Looking forward to hearing from you.
 
Helen

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Be Kind to You Day!

A thing of beauty
is a joy forever.
~ John Keats

Close your eyes and sit silently for a few minutes.  Picture yourself sitting under a big tree smiling, and feeling relaxed.  That is a thing of beauty!

We continuously have a choice to either feel good about ourselves or be our own worst enemy.  Which one do you pick today?  I choose to be kind to myself today!

I am sitting here with a smile on my face thinking about what I am going to do special for myself today.  Below is my dream day.

• Think of happy thoughts all day and every time an unhappy thought pops into my head simply say, “No drama today.”
• Make myself a healthy and delicious breakfast.  My favorite pancake recipe:
  • ¼ Cup of Cottage Cheese
  • 1 Egg
  • ¼ Cup of uncooked Oatmeal
  • 2 tbls. of water
  • 1 Cup of Yogurt
  • 1 Cup of Cut Up Fruit

    Mix the cottage cheese, egg, oatmeal and water together.  Pour the mixture into a frying pan and cook over a low heat.  When pancake is cooked put it on a plate, add the yogurt and fruit.  Enjoy!

• Work for half a day.
• Make myself a healthy salad for lunch.  I always add cooked vegetables to a mixed green salad, protein, rice and salad dressing.  For dessert I have fruit.
• Buy myself a small gift.
• Take a leisurely walk with a good friend along the Princeton Canal.  Make sure we laugh a lot.  
• Meet friends for dinner.
• Take a nice long bubble bath.
• Read a book and go to sleep early.

Doesn’t that sound like a special day? No DRAMA and being kind to myself all day long. 

Please share your dream day with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community.  Together let’s create “BE Kind to You Day.”  Looking forward to hearing about your special day. 

Helen

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Tips for Working with Clients Who Always Reschedule

All the strength you need
to achieve anything
is within you.
~ Sara Henerson

Question:  What steps do you take when a client constantly cancels their scheduled coaching sessions and wants to reschedule?
 
Answer:  The important thing to remember, this is not about you!  Following are some of the steps I take in determining whether we are a good match or the client is not ready for coaching or some situation has to be worked out:

• Email the client expressing your concern for their well-being and the importance of scheduling time to chat.
• Call the client on the day and time scheduled.
  • During the session always follow the client’s agenda.  NEVER, NEVER put them on the defensive or feel something is wrong with them.   
• Coach the client in discovering what is holding them back from moving forward.
• Coach the client in making a determination as to whether coaching is a good fit for them.
  • Always act as the coach and remember this is not about you.
• End the conversation in a positive and upbeat manner.

Sometimes I find the client is experiencing some blocks that are stopping them from moving forward.  Other times they are not ready for coaching and it would be in their best interest to see a therapist.  We are all human beings and at any one time we are journeying through different experiences.
  
Having these conversations usually enables the client and myself to discover what works best for both of us.  Taking a risk and communicating with others is always the best solution.
 
Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters Community what plan works best for you when a client is always cancelling and rescheduling their appointments.  Let’s support each other in growing our businesses.

Helen

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Secret for Accomplishing Goals

Skyrocket Your Business in 30 Days – While Having Coffee with Helen

What three things do you
want to accomplish this year?
Write them down and place them
on your refrigerator
for inspiration all year long.
~ Anonymous

I was flipping thru inspirational quotes to find the right one for today’s message.  When I came across the quote above, it made me think about what three things I wanted to accomplish in 2011.
 
The last 3 ½ months have flown by quickly.  My biggest accomplishment was writing and having a book published.  This was a longtime dream that after many attempts finally became a reality. The name of the book is Skyrocket Your Business in 30 Days – While Having Coffee with Helen.
 
After celebrating the publication of the book, I kept thinking “What is next?” 
 
With time on my hands, I decided to think about the next three things I wanted to accomplish in the remaining 7 ½ months of 2011.  Below is the exercise that helped me discover my next three goals for 2011.  

1. Close your eyes and ground yourself by taking five deep breaths and releasing them.  When taking the breaths let the warm sunshine fill your body.  While releasing the breaths let go of your negative feelings and thoughts. 
2. Picture yourself just relaxing in your favorite spot.  Mine is sitting under a big tree feeling warm and cozy with a blanket wrapped around me.
3. Think about three things you would like to accomplish by the end of 2011.  They are only ideas and nothing is written in stone.  My ideas were:
   •  Celebrate with family and friends the publication of my book by having a big party and inviting everyone I know.
   • Facilitate a seminar, “Skyrocket Your Business in 30 Days – While Having Coffee with Helen” in different coffee shops.
   • Get ready to move to the NJ Shore area.
4. Let all the thoughts and ideas disappear into the Universe. 
5. At the count of 5 open your eyes and sit quietly for a few minutes.
6. When ready write down all your ideas.
7. Chose which three goals you would like to accomplish by the end of 2011.  The three goals I chose are listed in step 3.

Now it is Your Turn:
 
Complete the exercise above to determine what three things you want to accomplish by the end of 2011.  Once you have determined which goals you would like to accomplish, “Write them down and place them on your refrigerator for inspiration all year long.”  Also, feel free to share your three goals for 2011 in the comment section of this blog.  Let the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community know what three things you would like to accomplish.  We are all here to support each other. 
 
Helen

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