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“If you want to be happy,
set yourself a goal
that commands your thoughts,
liberates your energy,
and inspires your hopes.
Happiness is with you.
It comes from doing some certain thing
into which you can put
all your thought and energy.
If you want to be happy,
get enthusiastic about something.”
Dale Carnegie
Being unemployed gives us the chance to stop and think about the times in our life when we were really happy. Don’t feel guilty about taking this time to think about those happy moments it will give you energy and enthusiam regarding something.
Let’s play a little game!
Take the following steps:
• Close your eyes, take 5 deep breaths, relax and think of a time in your life when you were really happy. Was it when you were a child, young adult or just recently?
• Reminisce about that time. What were you doing? Who were you with? What made you happy?
• Relax and enjoy that experience.
• Think about how you can recapture that time again. Do you have to plan a party? Call that special friend? Take time alone and go to the beach or mountains? What would make that experience a reality again?
• Open your eyes at the count of 5.
• Take a big stretch and relax for a few seconds.
How are you feeling? I hope relaxed and ready to take action.
Remember we can never recapture the same experience again. What we can do is create a new experience that will make us happy.
You are the creator of your happiness. Go for it!!!
After completing the exercise above, please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters Community your thoughts. What made you happy? What plans are you making to recapture your new happy moment?
I am looking forward to hearing from you and together we can bring a little happiness into our day.
Helen
“Remember, if you ever need a helping hand,
you’ll find one at the end of your arm…”
Audrey Hepburn
It is so easy to forget the most powerful person you have supporting you while on the unemployed journey is YOURSELF. We are constantly looking for others to help. Even though there are others who encourage us, when you come down to the basic truth we are the ones who daily reassure ourselves to continue on the path.
Reassuring yourself can be a difficult task when things are quiet and you have exhausted all your ideas. The important thing to remember while traveling on this journey you will have ups and downs. Some days will be very active with interviews, networking, contacting different leads, etc. and others will be slow.
When you are busy the energy is flowing and hope is running through your veins. On the slow days you have to work extra hard to keep your emotional well being in check.
During the quiet days you can look at them as a special gift instead of losing faith and starting to worry. I know it is hard to turn the feelings around.
Some easy steps you can take are below:
• List all the things that made you happy the last few days. Example: Taking the kids to the park, watching them laugh and have fun.
• Review your successes over the last few weeks. Example: Met two new members at the Networking Event last week and we are having coffee tomorrow.
• Take one small step today that you never tried. Example: Research one of the companies you would like to work for and call to schedule an informational interview. This type of interview is to speak with someone in the same field you are pursuing to see how they got started and if they can offer any advice. Remember people love to talk about themselves.
You are never alone you have yourself and others who love and care about you.
One of the simplest ways of receiving support is to leave a comment on the Love Yourself – It Matters Blog. We are all on this journey together.
I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
“You don’t make progress by
standing on the sidelines,
whimpering and complaining.
You make progress by
implementing ideas.”
Shirley Chisholm
When waking in the morning do you just want to stay in bed and pull the covers over your head? You are not alone, welcome to the world of the temporarily unemployed.
I know you don’t want to be a member of this group. Neither does anyone else.
It just dawned on me we are only temporarily unemployed and this period of time will not last forever. Doesn’t that feel better?
Okay, today is a new day and we are on the move.
The important thing to remember as Shirley Chisholm says, “You don’t make progress by
standing on the sidelines, whimpering and complaining. You make progress by implementing ideas.”
I am your Fairy God Mother and give you 10 minutes to whimper and complain. The time is clicking away…Okay time is up and now into ACTION.
What are your next steps? Everyone is at a different place, some are in the process of creating a dynamic resume, researching companies, etc. and others have these steps perfected and working on different ideas.
What is your next step?
Following are some very simple steps you can implement:
• Make yourself a cup of coffee or tea. Simply relax and enjoy the taste, smell and warmth of the drink. Taking time to forget for awhile what is happening around you gives you the strength to continue.
• Think of how you are going to reward yourself when done working today. Examples: Take a long walk or run, call a friend and have a good laugh, etc. Giving yourself an incentive gives you the mindset to continue working.
• Outline what steps you are going to implement today. It is important to include a timeframe for each action step. Be realistic about what you can accomplish in a day. Having a plan to follow gives you a structure to put into action.
• Start with the easiest step on the list. Then continue picking steps until you are finished for the day. Picking an easy step gives you the self-confidence to get started.
• Reward yourself for who you are and taking the action steps to reach your goal. What are you going to do nice for yourself? Pick one of the items listed in the 2nd step.
Now it is Your Turn
Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters Community what ideas and thoughts you had after reading today’s article. I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Have a beautiful and successful day!
Helen
“The glory is not in never failing,
but in rising every time you fail.”
Chinese Proverb
Have you ever thought of applying for temporary jobs while looking for a permanent job?
A temp job gives you new experiences and can lead to a permanent job. They teach you new job functions or maybe a computer program. Suddenly, you have hands on experience and can add it to your resume.
The most important thing to remember is to continue looking for other work. It may be easy to stop looking while in a temporary job. The problem being once you lose your momentum it is hard to start up again. Continue your job search during the evenings and weekends.
Even though the position is temporary your performance does matter. If you do an excellent job and prove yourself it can open other doors or lead to a permanent position.
Please share your thoughts about temporary work and your experiences. Keeping communication going it will give each and everyone of us new ideas and support. I look forward to hearing from you.
Helen
“Use what talents you possess;
the woods would be very silent
if no birds sang except those
that sang best.”
Henry Van Dyke
Even though you lost your job, remember you are still the same person. Nothing can take away your special gifts.
Stand-up and take a bow acknowledging the beautiful person you have become and your special gifts!
You might say I don’t have any special gifts. Hold on there, we all have them.
Let’s focus for a minute what comes easy to you. Do you have a beautiful smile, people feel comfortable being with you, great sense of humor, or are you a math wiz, etc.?
Feeling better?
Let’s do a little experiment today. During the day write down what makes you a beautiful person. No need to share the list.
For some of us who had trouble thinking what people like about me. Try this simple exercise:
• Think about a close friend and what you like about that them.
• Write these traits down.
• Ask yourself this question “Do I also have some of these qualities?”
• Now list your special gifts.
Once you have created a list review it in the morning and evening. Pick one special gift you possess and practice it three times that day. As the days go, add another special gift each day and in time you will be practicing all your gifts each day.
Remember what Henry Van Dyke said, “Use what talents you possess; the woods would be very silent if no birds sang except those that sang best.”
Go play full-out and enjoy the beautiful person you have become!
Please share your feelings after reading this article. The Love Yourself – It Matters Community is here to be your support system. I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
“Our greatest glory
is not in never falling,
but in rising
every time we fall.”
Confucius
Being unemployed, we are constantly being tested to see our true strength and creativity during this fall.
Thank you, Universe for this beautiful gift!
Just want to throw a little thought out there, we usually bounce back in all situations one way or another. Being unemployed, we still possess this under lying strength to find solutions for the problem we are facing. Sometimes it takes longer than others times to see, understand and put into action a solution.
Jack was riding high, had a great job and loving family. When he heard about anyone losing his job, his thought was, “I really feel sorry for so and so, but that could never happen to me.”
Jack went to work early everyday and stayed late. His work was always completed in a timely manner and everyone loved working with him.
Suddenly, times changed and the company he was working for merged with another firm. Jack still did not worry.
As the weeks and months past Jack kept seeing the writing on-the-wall that there would be lay-offs. No way would he be affected.
Three months later, Jack was called into a meeting. During the meeting, Jack heard words and could not comprehend the thought that he was being laid-off.
It took him months to finally understand what happened. Slowly, his under lying strength to find a solution kicked into gear. Jack joined the Circle of Inspiration for the Unemployed (www.circlesofinspiration.com), found support and creative action steps he could take to find a new job.
Jack’s perspective on life had changed. He is not in denial about what is happening around him and appreciates the little things in life.
Even though Jack is uncomfortable traveling on the journey of the unemployed, his life has changed and he started to feel comfortable with whom he has become.
Therefore, it is true what Confucius says, “Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”
Now It Is Your Turn
Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters Community what gifts you have received while traveling on the journey of the unemployed. Sharing together we can support each other and make this journey a little easier.
I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
“The world is but canvas
to our imagination.”
Henry David Thoreau
Keeping yourself on track while looking for a job is the secret for succeeding.
Most people like structure in their lives. While working we had structure, getting up at a certain time, rushing around and leaving at the same moment each day. We are creatures of habit.
Now times have changed. We can look at this period as a time of hardship or wonder and excitement.
Hold on I have not lost my mind!
I know sometimes it is hard to motivate yourself each day. Let’s try something new and just for a second think this could be an exciting time. It will bring a smile to your face and you will have a new perspective.
As Henry David Thoreau said, “The world is but canvas to our imagination” you have the chance to think and create whatever you want.
Here are some simple steps we can take to start thinking in this new positive way:
• Follow the same routine each day. Putting structure in our lives gives us a sense of security.
• Create a list of jobs that would light your fire. Thinking about these different possibilities creates an energy that is exciting.
• Take time each day to relax. Taking time for ourselves reminds us that we are important.
Now It Is Your Turn!
Try the little experiment above and let the Love Yourself – It Matters Community know what happens.
We are all in this together and the best part is you are not alone. Giving yourself the opportunity to receive support is the greatest gift you can give yourself.
Helen
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