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‘No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.’
~ Eleanor Roosevelt
Do you sometimes think, “Other people’s lives are better than mine.” You are not alone! Things happen in our lives and sometimes the circumstances or people lower our self-esteem. I am finding thru life experiences, learning from different teachers, only I have the choice to make myself feel inferior. Eleanor Roosevelt put it so eloquently in the quote above.
Let me tell you a little story, Carole (name changed) was trying every diet imaginable and was still not losing weight. She felt so frustrated and kept thinking, “Jan, my sister, was so lucky because she could lose weight and keep it off.” To make matters worse everytime she looked in the mirror or had a conversation with her sister about losing weight Carole’s self-esteem plunged lower.
Let’s turn this picture around and see what Carole could have done to build her self-esteem instead of letting people or circumstances make her feel inferior. Following are some small steps Carole could put into practice that will help build her esteem:
1. Acknowledge herself every day by keeping a list of her accomplishments.
2. Tell herself daily what she likes about herself.
3. Eating a healthy meal at least once a day and writing about how she feels.
4. Compliment others for their special gifts.
5. Receive compliments graciously and thank the person.
6. Focus on what she has instead of what she doesn’t have.
7. Read or listen to motivational tapes. (i.e. “Excuse Me Your Life is Waiting” by Lynn Grabhorn.)
8. Do something nice for herself every day.
9. Do something nice for someone else without being found out.
10. Call a good friend and have a good laugh.
What other small steps do you take to build your self-esteem?
I would love for you to join me in writing “Getting Off the Diet Merry-Go-Round Blog, by sharing your wisdom, successes and lessons learned. All it takes is one little step, leave a comment or send me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoachikng.net.
A special note to anyone who is struggling with food, please leave a comment and I will address your concerns in this blog. Together we will create a plan that will enable you to live a life filled with joy, self-confidence and love.
What are you doing nice for yourself today?
Helen
JEFFREY’S GOD STORY
By Helen J. Burton
Jeffrey, my 6 year old grandson, couldn’t find his DS Gameboy (DS). He and his parents for days searched the house, car and any place they could think of where the DS could possibly be located. No luck! After the second day, Jeffrey became very upset and started to cry because his mother would not buy him another DS. Mindi my daughter suggested that he ask G-d for help because sometimes after praying he could receive an answer of where the DS was located. So Jeffrey tried this new idea and went into his bedroom to ask G-d for help. After awhile he came out and told his mother that he did not get any answers. They then had a discussion about how sometimes it takes time before receiving any answers. He then watched television for awhile and went to bed.
While Mindi was on the computer checking her emails, she received an email from the babysitter with pictures she took while watching Jeffrey on Saturday. In one of the pictures was a picture of Jeffrey holding his DS. Mindi emailed the sitter and asked if she knew were the DS was located. The sitter sent back an email saying the DS was in the garage. She checked and sure enough the DS was there. The next morning when Jeffrey came down for breakfast sitting on the kitchen table was his DS. Mindi, told him what happened and Jeffrey said, “See how G-d helped me find my DS.”
After hearing this encouraging story, it makes me stop and think about all the miracles
G-d has given me and how I simply take them for granted. Some of the miracles I have received from G-d are as follows:
· Having a loving relationship with my husband, family and friends.
· Watched my granddaughter play the flute last night in the School’s Spring Concert. There were 7 family members watching her.
· Having an opportunity tomorrow to attend the play, Bill Wilson and Dr Bob Story” in New York City with 40 other people.
· Watching the trees and flowers start to blossom.
· Blogging and connecting with others.
What revelations did you get out of reading Jeffrey’s God story, I would love to know.
FOLLOW YOUR BLISS
by Steve Goodier
Author Joseph Campbell often talked about “following your bliss.” I heard of a bus driver in Chicago who does just that. He sings while he drives. That’s right… sings! And I don’t mean he sings softly to himself, either. He sings so that the whole bus can hear! All day long he drives and sings.
He was once interviewed on Chicago television. He said that he is not actually a bus driver. “I’m a professional singer,” he asserted. “I only drive the bus to get a captive audience every single day.
His “bliss” is not driving a bus, though that may be a source of enjoyment for some people. His bliss is singing. And the supervisors at the Chicago Transit Authority are perfectly happy about the whole arrangement. You see, people line up to ride his bus. They even let other busses pass by so they can ride with the “singing bus driver.” They love it!
Here is a man who believes he knows why he was put here on earth. For him, it is to make people happy. And the more he sings, the more people he makes happy! He has found a way to align his purpose in living with his occupation. By following his bliss, he is actually living the kind of life he believes he was meant to live.
Not everybody can identify a purpose in life. But when you do, and when you pursue it, you will be living the kind of life you feel you were meant to live. And what’s more, you will be happy.
I love reading this story; it helps me realize that there is no specific way of achieving your dream. Normally, I would think of a singer performing at a concert and here he is singing on a bus.
After traveling on my life’s journey, I have found my inner passion is to see other people smile and feel good about themselves. The way I fulfill this passion is to coach individuals who are tired of struggling with food and want to get off the Diet Merry-Go-Round and into a vibrant life.
What is your inner passion and how are you fulfilling your dream? Please let me know.
“Our deepest fear
is not that we are inadequate.
It is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light not our darkness what most frightens us.
You might ask yourself,”Who am I to be so brilliant,
gorgeous, talented, fabulous?”
Actually, who are you not to be!
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
So that other people won’t feel unsure around you.
We are all meant to shine as children do.
We were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us.
As we shine our own light,
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.”
Marianne Williamson
This is my favorite Inspirational Message that Nelson Mandela read during his inauguration. I often read this message and think that I am special, important and a gift to others. My favorite line is “As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” What it means to me is when I take risks not only am I giving myself a special gift I am also giving it to others.
Please let me know your feelings and discoveries, when reading this inspirational message. I look forward to hearing from you.
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