As we go thru life having hundreds of thoughts a day, some positive and others negative. These thoughts help us move forward or stop us completely.
What I am learning is that I have a choice, either I can let my thoughts dictate my emotions or not. Today for example, I was thinking of putting the winter clothes away and taking out my summer things. I started thinking how my husband would help me transfer the clothes from the attic and I could not do it alone. All of a sudden I received a burst of energy and started transferring the clothes. Within an hour I was completely done.
If I would have listened to my thoughts I would have looked for someone to help me and felt sorry for myself. Instead started the project and the next thing knew I was done.
What have you been putting off doing because your thoughts have been telling you to get help or give up the idea? Following are some steps you can take to get started:
1. Schedule time to begin the project. Putting aside time to work on a project provides support so you get started.
2. Tell someone what your plans are. Letting them know what you are planning helps with motivation and keep your word.
3. Reward yourself when the project is completed. You can remind yourself while you are working that when finished you will receive a special gift. This motivates you to complete the project.
4. Acknowledge yourself for a job well done. Acknowledging yourself enforces our greatness.
What project are you planning to complete today? Taking some or all of the above steps will help you complete the project. Let me know how you make out.
‘No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.’
~ Eleanor Roosevelt
Do you sometimes think, “Other people’s lives are better than mine.” You are not alone! Things happen in our lives and sometimes the circumstances or people lower our self-esteem. I am finding thru life experiences, learning from different teachers, only I have the choice to make myself feel inferior. Eleanor Roosevelt put it so eloquently in the quote above.
Let me tell you a little story, Carole (name changed) was trying every diet imaginable and was still not losing weight. She felt so frustrated and kept thinking, “Jan, my sister, was so lucky because she could lose weight and keep it off.” To make matters worse everytime she looked in the mirror or had a conversation with her sister about losing weight Carole’s self-esteem plunged lower.
Let’s turn this picture around and see what Carole could have done to build her self-esteem instead of letting people or circumstances make her feel inferior. Following are some small steps Carole could put into practice that will help build her esteem:
1. Acknowledge herself every day by keeping a list of her accomplishments.
2. Tell herself daily what she likes about herself.
3. Eating a healthy meal at least once a day and writing about how she feels.
4. Compliment others for their special gifts.
5. Receive compliments graciously and thank the person.
6. Focus on what she has instead of what she doesn’t have.
7. Read or listen to motivational tapes. (i.e. “Excuse Me Your Life is Waiting” by Lynn Grabhorn.)
8. Do something nice for herself every day.
9. Do something nice for someone else without being found out.
10. Call a good friend and have a good laugh.
What other small steps do you take to build your self-esteem?
I would love for you to join me in writing “Getting Off the Diet Merry-Go-Round Blog, by sharing your wisdom, successes and lessons learned. All it takes is one little step, leave a comment or send me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoachikng.net.
A special note to anyone who is struggling with food, please leave a comment and I will address your concerns in this blog. Together we will create a plan that will enable you to live a life filled with joy, self-confidence and love.
What are you doing nice for yourself today?
Helen
